How often are you meant to call your parents?

[battenberg123]

I call my parents about once/twice a week but I'm always getting comments from them like "You don't phone us enough" I've told them it's because usually I don't have anything to say! I'm doing the same thing working 9-5 everyday and my life really isn't that interesting!

Am I out of order for being annoyed with this expectation? I feel rather guilty now like I should be doing more even though I do see them at least once a month too. They are in their 60's.

Exactly cogito

hardly ever
mainly because they call me before I get a chance.
roughly we speak once a week.

Perhaps think how much would you like your children to call you when they leave home? I don't speak to my parents that often (twice a week), but thinking about it I would be very sad if I only speak to my children once a month once they've grown up and left home!

My dd and I phone or text each other several times a week and see each other every few weeks to go shopping or out for a meal.

I speak to my mum once a fortnight. I just can't or don't want to speak more often than that. I will have to speak to her tomorrow, it is weighing on my mind.

When dad was still with us I never called but visited every weekend.
Since dad passed away last year my siblings and I have a rota so she has someone everyday, so i visit 2-3 times a week.

She's 18 miles away so hard going when working full time and have a dc, but she needs company just now, hopefully will be able cut back to visit 2 times a week and phone once later this year. If we didn't visit she wouldn't see anyone else all day as no friends left and poor health.

Once in a blue moon now and only if I have to. Got sick of not being asked how I was and then me having to listen how my sister and niece were.

Dad will sometimes read an e-mail but never replies

She never rings either

We visit them most days and call sometimes too. We live very nearby and are incredibly close. It works for us but everyone is different.

Once or twice a year. We're not close....

Once a week or so.

Hello Battenberg

Some phone networks offer free calls if you are on the same network or free calls after a certain time of day or evenings & weekends

There are no rules

Ever heard the phrase "its good to talk" ?

Find something to talk about news story, weather, food... they wont be there forever

Good luck

I hardly ever bother phoning my parents or anyone else for that matter; I'm terrible at keeping in touch with people that I don't see day to day.

When DC were small and I needed company we would speak once a day, usually only for 10-15 mins.

Now DC are at school and I'm at work while they're at school, usually twice a week for a catch up.

They live about 3 hrs away so we don't see them as often as we'd like.

I like talking to them!

I speak to my DF every 2-3 days.

Sometimes we speak more but we don't normally go more than 3 days without talking.

He tends to let me ring as he worries about calling at an inconvenient time but will text /email between calls.

Mine died but when they were still here I used to pop in about once a fortnight (ish) and phone sometimes at various times.

I think it depends on the parties involved and what they're happy with. I think in your case once/twice a week is more than enough! Some people could chat for England though couldn't they I don't like talking on the phone but text my mum daily, we get on really well and I tell her what her grandson has been upto.. and just see my dad when I go round (weekly).

Wish I could still call my lovely DF AND DM ....

i speak to mine at least once a day
and see them at least 3 times a week.