I met a guy 13 months ago through a project we were both working on. He is married with kids and I have been in a long term relationship for over 20 years. In all the time I have been with my partner I have never looked at another man but felt an instant attraction with this man. 3 months after meeting I secretly started to text him I never revealed who I was just told him I was attracted to him. Over the weeks I gave him little clues then he asked could he call me. After a lot of panicking I agreed. He said he was 99 percent it was me and that he was delighted ad he was attracted to me the 1st time we met. We chatted for over an hour and got on really well. We continued to text and the texts became very raunchy. This is something I have never done before and I know it's wrong but this guy makes me feel good about myself. We agreed to go out for a drink together but a few days before he cancelled saying he couldn't do it. I was very disapointed the texts stopped coming. A few weeks later I got back in touch and we continued texting, over the next few months we arranged to meet for a coffee on 3 occasions but he cancelled again. I can't seem to get this guy out of my head. We've met up 3 times regarding business and he is always a gent and he tells me I look great and that he flattered that a girl like me would be interested in him. After many more texts we have both revealed we can't stop thinking about each other. He's told me he doesn't love his wife he stays for his kids as he could never break there hearts I know this man lives for them. He said if only we met 20 years ago. We haven't had any contact in 3 weeks and it'd killing me. I've got very strong feelings for him but I just don't know what to do for the best. I know we both have partners and it's wrong but you can't help who you fall got!