DH spent over 500 in strip club

[Graceunderfire01]

Hi
This is my first post. I had posted earlier but my message disappeared. I know this topic has probably been done to death but I'm looking for some help/ information.
Whilst going through our bank statements tonight I've noticed a number of translations for a strip club in our city and I'm fucking raging. Dh was entertaining clients after a corporate even that he was part of and obviously took them to this strip club. How fucking clichéd! Anyway my question is the transactions are for set amounts , £110 x2 and £130 x2 - what is this likely to be? As in what service did he avail of? What do they usually offer in a strip club to warrant that amount? You may laugh at this question but my knowledge of the prices and range of the 'services' on offer at these places is not good.
Can anyone please help? I'm mortified to be asking and fucking livid I'm in this situation.
Thank you

Does it matter what it was for? It will be for women to strip for him/them in some way or other presumably. I can't see how knowing exactly what the specifics are will change the basic facts of what's gone on. Paying for actual sex acts would mean the club wouldn't be legal so I doubt that sort of thing would be itemised on a bank statement!

I think you'll need to have a long conversation with your DH about why you find strip clubs unacceptable and see what he says to try and defend himself.

Thank you for your reply. I guess I don't want to raise it with him and for him to pawn off some excuse of it being a drinks bill or something. I'm aware my question is stupid and that I sound naive (I'm not) I just want to know what I'm talking about when I raise it. I'm not totally against stripclubs. I just am livid that he has probably had a private service. This honestly couldn't have come at a worse time.

I don't know for sure but i thought private services would b cash, so is this a cash withdrawl in the club?
Even if it's "just" a drinks bill, which he will say it is, he is still spending family money and Shit loads at that, in a place where women are exploited and/or worse.
Entertaining clients should be paid by business expenses not personal money.

I highly doubt they would have been for anything else other than possibly private dances.

Strip clubs in the uk don't tend to do any 'extras', they are wary of being shut down if they do.

Not right he spent the money though, that's a hell of a lot.

As an aside, I don't get the whole client entertainment at a strip club thing - how embarrassing!

I don't really get why a private strip is worse than watching the main strippers. I suppose it's more close up but they won't be allowed to touch the women so it just is more of a waste of money.

I would be livid at the crassness, the misogyny of it, and the waste of family money without discussion (can you get him to claim it back if it actually was with clients?).

What kind of business is he in where this is an acceptable form of entertaining clients?

phone the strip club and ask them for their price list. See if it matches up.

It's a fucking sleezy thing to do and I hate it that watching women strip is some sort of corporate event. yuk.

Do you have any idea of what 'class' of strip club it is? I took clients to an expensive London one sometimes - my excuse is that it was the 1990s, and I am not proud of myself. It'd generally cost around £300 back then, for four people. Their bills were itemised, though, and I refused to pay for private dances.

My ex once spent £2,000 "talking things over" with a dancer at the same club. For one-to-one company, the club charges a high hourly rate (based on the number of three-minute dances she would have done) and insists she orders their overpriced champagne.

I'm a bit confused by the way you say the bills are set out. It does suggest something's being covered up, doesn't it? Have you tired searching for reviews of this club by name? It might give you some insight.

On the wider scale of things, I agree it's a prompt to have the hard conversation about your views on men who rent undressed women for entertainment. Until then, you're in a poor position to decide how crucial your discovery is to your feelings about the relationship.

I'm sorry this has happened. It's a blow, either way.

I don't really get why a private strip is worse than watching the main strippers.

Something to do with the stroking of breasts over mouths, the grinding on the lap and the thrusting of vulva in face, perhaps?

Hi all, I'd actually double posted so have two posts with the same topic running. I don't know if I can merge or link both? (New to this)
Anyway all are valid points.its hugely tacky. Smacks of chauvinistic macho bullshit and at best is deeply insulting to me as a female raising our daughter. I have decided I'm going to speak to him directly about it and gauge his reaction and my feelings from there. That's all I can do really. It is a blow and the very fact it has made me question him and see him in a different light is something he sorry for in itself aside from anythjng else!
Thanks for your replies. I've had an excellent response on the other thread also

Regarding the query of the bill there are 4 separate transactions. 2 for £110 exactly and 2 for £130 exactly

GallicisCharlie... I'm not an idiot, I get what a lap dance is. I find it all equally repellant whether it's on the stage or right next to the punter. It's all grim as hell.