Feeling really low-sex related

[TweedAddict]

I'll try and keep this short, my partner doesn't ever come on too me-never! I've told/asked/said how much it upsets me and makes me feel awful, but it never improves.

Also when we do manage to have sex, as soon he gets (tmi-sorry) inside me he goes soft instantly. I've tried and tried to help/be understanding etc but it's getting me down now.

Then last night we went to bed, I came on to him and he never even touched me at all, he moved over the top of me-while I was wanking him (getting him ready) well he just cum over me, past me a tissue rolled over and went to sleep. I thought he was moving into position but obviously not.

I feel so used and upset. I really don't know where to go from here.

Tweed, it's not you, it's him.

Either he sorts this problem out, and that means actually doing something and not just talking about it, or you need to leave.

It's me, I know it is, we were supposed to be going away this weekend and he's just called me saying he can't he's got to work. I really don't know how to take him anymore. I'm so lost

Oh tweed I always thought it was me. I met a man I briefly had a fling with after my marriage broke up and it showed me what I'd been missing. And that oh my gosh I was sexy and that sex could be mutually satisfying and fun. As a church goer I felt guilty at the time but believe me it's not you and you deserve far better.

Tweed I hope you're ok.

The irony of my situation was ExH suddenly found his labido when he met ow. But karma came to bit him in the bum as his problems returned.

I remember him telling me that she found it all frustrating and that he didn't understand as I'd always been so understanding about it when married. I tried to keep a straight face at that point... Admittedly it was too much info but by then we'd been separated 2 years and my life had moved on massively...

'Bite'

Re. the take a lover advice.

Some men think that women in a sexless marriage are so desperate that they will put up with any old shit treatment so if you do go down that road.....be careful.

What was the issue with letter to ex wife?
As he is not interested in having an intimate relationship with you could he possibly be getting that somewhere else? Cancelling this weekend because of something else is not good.

Well, normally, three years into a relationship, a weekend away together would involve sex. Things are really not right here. Forget about trying to apportion responsibility. I think he has erectile dysfunction and is also very selfish and uncaring. But if you want to blame yourself, that's up to you. Whatever, my advice is to use your now free weekend to think about whether it is worth having a heart to heart and get things sorted or whether to call time.