Discovered hisband's affair 18 months ago. I tried to save the marriage but he stepped up the deceit until I had no option but to divorce him. I've bought him out of the house so it's mine. All this time he's been living with his girlfriend at her parent's house. He never sees the children at holidays and weekends but often had them after school in my house while I'm at work. I hate having him swanning in and out. It makes it hard to move on. I suggested he set up home nearby so he could have the kids overnight sometimes and in his house at weekends. He said I was being controlling he'd do what he wanted and he's not paying rent. He's never been good with money and is swiftly getting through the house money he had. I can't see him ever setting up home. Yesterday I interviewed after school nannies. I found someone lovely to start in April and discovered although it will really put pressure on finances I can claim a lot through tax credits. The idea of him not coming back here all the time and every so often asking if I will take him back gives me huge relief but an I being selfish in pushing him out. The children seem really happy and I don't want to ruin that. They never ask to see him or talk about him but am I denying them the contact they have by doing this. Would be so grateful for advice.