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Is he losing interest in me?

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GigiBlake1 · 16/02/2015 00:39

My bf and I are sixteen. I'm concerned that he's losing interest because I'm injured, and he used to visit me about 3 times a week, and this week he only has twice. I asked him to come over once and he said he was sick and was helping out his parents with heavy-duty housework (which I thought was sketchy, since I didn't think you could do that with a stomach ache? But his parents are like drill sergeants and he's SUPER SUPER SUPER loyal to them and always doing work for them. He's very passive and always gives into them without argument. They've always been his number one priority, and their demands always cut into our dating time). He also said he was looking forward to his pizza dinner...would you still have an appetite for pizza with a stomach ache?

The next time I asked him over he agreed to come pretty quickly but left after about an hour and half since his parents needed his help again.

He was also less physically affectionate with me but I thought that might've been because my parents were around a lot of the time and he doesn't like to PDA in front of them.

Also, he still texts me constantly; we have conversations all day about our interests and he's always asking me about my life and opinions. He asks how I am and texts good night. But maybe he just feels bad for me since I'm injured? But he's always texted me that much in the four months we've been romantically involved, and our conversations go way beyond my injury.

We're abstinent due to his family's strict religious beliefs.

Am I being too paranoid? I don't want to call him out on it because I don't want to seem clingy. Thanks!

OP posts:
CogitoErgoSometimes · 16/02/2015 09:09

He normally visits three times a week and instead he's visited twice. He texts you constantly but you think it's out of pity. I think you sound very bored and also rather insecure if you're reading so much into what is really nothing. Of course he runs around after his parents, is loyal and helps out at home .... they're his family, they're responsible for him, he's dependent on them and he's a 16 yo boy.

Do you have other friends to talk to? Things to do for school or with your own family? Hobbies? Interests? Does your injury restrict your movements very much? Having a boyfriend is lots of fun but shouldn't be allowed to dominate your life. Find other things to do & be with other people. Balance your life.

firesidechat · 16/02/2015 10:08

I think this the same author as a previously deleted thread. The exact post is on multiple forums.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 16/02/2015 10:19

Bother

firesidechat · 16/02/2015 10:24

I only noticed because we don't get many 16 year olds on here with such an interesting posting style.

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