is it normal to feel so horrible?

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I have posted here before as I met someone who ticked all the right boxes apart from the one and that was I wasn't sexually attracted to him and was confused anyway I did the right thing after a long long time of trying and ended it as I couldn't sleep with him and it wasn't fair on him. I have really hurt him and made him feel shitty :( I keep getting upset over the fact he is hurting. I also miss him is this normal?

Dumping someone nice is always tinged with regret. Nothing you can usefully do about it, however, so try to put it behind you.

I'm trying :( been single almost 5 years and have dated soooo many jerks just feel so sad about it.

Yes, in my experience its normal.

I was with my ex for 5 years, I didn't find him sexually attractive at all towards the end we were more friends than anything else. It was still really hard to finish with him as I knew he thought I was 'the one' for him.

Don't feel guilty. You have to live your life for yourself, not anyone else.

It's horrible isn't it?
I know and I tried to explain to him I wasn't being fair and he is just so angry at me as he says he has treated me like a princess and maybe he should start being a nob as they seem to get what they like. It's so hard trying to tell him it's not him as a person I can't exactly say I'm not sexually attracted to him. Although he obviously must know this by now and it must feel horrible. I hate that I have hurt him :(

The only thing you can do with bad experiences is to learn from them. What you might learn from this experience is to trust your instinct more. If you're not attracted to someone, be clear about it early rather than carrying on hoping feelings will develop. Did this 'princess treatment' influence you at the time? Did you feel any kind of obligation or pressure?

Because I have had a bad time dating this guy came along and I thought I would see how things went as I honestly believe my emtions were a little bit numb. My mum and my sister told me you don't get butterflies at my age (mid 30's)
From the start he was full on wanting to do absolutely everything for me and he kept telling me he would do anything for me I deserved to be treated like a princess. He agreed with everything I said and I felt like he was so predictable. It's a long story and I don't want to bore you with it. I kept trying to tell him I'm not feeling how I should and a few times we tried to be friends but it didn't work like that. I last posted on here about him and someone said it was like he held me like an emotional hostage. I don't think he even knew he was doing that he just wanted me to love hom back. I tried and I care for him but I could not bring myself to sleep with him and I don't know why :(

I think you've dodged a bullet and I thought your story would sound something like this. This was not a nice man. He pursued you even when you said it wasn't working and that is not the behaviour of a respectful person. A decent man would have tried to win you over but, when it didn't happen, he would have backed off and respected your decision. He would not have got angry and told you that you owed him just because he did the right things.

Butterflies do happen any age. I'm 50 and my current squeeze is very attractive to me. So don't feel any guilt about this person. He was wrong from the start.

I will try not to but I was to blame also I kept giving him high hopes by carrying on seeing him. I have been told there can be butterflies I am still to find out :) I was scared and selfish holding on to him. He deserves to be loved back. Selfishly I got used to someone being in my life and making it a little less lonely. Life is hard as a single parent sometimes and my job is very lonely too. Thanks for advice :)