What made you leave or finish a relationship?

[Levismum]

Just that really!

on minimum standards (warning - sweary).

Going out to work does not = "good un". That's a very very low bar people are setting for themselves.

For me, it was finally finding out that he is not the man I thought, but a liar, and a cheat. Probably a serial one. And with a porn habit. I'm another of those who set the bar too low, in hindsight.

We are still under the same roof, though. My self-esteem. has hit rock bottom too. I'm trying to dig myself out of the resentment and bitterness. It's hard.

The older children are 13,11&10. Then my 'surprise' baby! It's really been since the youngest child was born that I realised things were so bad. I have been quite ill but he hardly even acknowledged it.

I never needed him to do anything. If everything had been ok with the boys I would have carried on, not needing him.

My remark about working equating a good partner,Isn't my opinion but would be a measure of how good a man is in my family.