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Original poster

Help me out, would you be mad?

28 replies

whateveryouwant · 14/02/2015 22:32

I am feeling so frustrated, I have no words! This guy I'm dating just posted something on facebook, some girl commented saying " I need to see your face soon it's been too long" something along this line! He then liked it! Well I am not impressed, so I am just wondering would you be mad if this was the guy you are dating? And if so what would you do? Thanks ladies!

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theconstantvacuumer · 14/02/2015 22:34

I wouldn't do anything. Possibly just friends? Ask him next time you see him.

cleanmyhouse · 14/02/2015 22:36

Um...you're over reacting.

Handywoman · 14/02/2015 22:36

Er...... I would think this is just a friend.
So easy to misinterpret or overthink texts/social media type stuff.
How long have you been dating?

monkeysaymoo · 14/02/2015 22:36

Well when you go back to school next week ask her what the hell she is playing at!

lollpop29 · 14/02/2015 22:37

he could of just liked her comment as a sign of acknowledgement, i wouldnt worry. i know when people put something on my facebook and i dont really want to comment i just like it for the above reason. if someone had wrote that on my oh i wouldnt be botherd too much by it but i would ask questions as to who she is. x

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whateveryouwant · 14/02/2015 22:39

We have only been dating for a month or so but he hardly contacts me even though we are meant to meet up soon....

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Archduke · 14/02/2015 22:40

Steady on there lady, it's been a month and you're freaking out about innocuous fb comments.

Ease up.

SelfLoathing · 14/02/2015 22:42

Half term huh?

Grow up.

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whateveryouwant · 14/02/2015 22:43

I have been really hurt before not prepared to go through all the crap again!

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CrispyFern · 14/02/2015 22:44

If she had said she needed to see his naked body soon then I think you'd have a worry.

alicemalice · 14/02/2015 22:44

I think it's more the fact he hardly contacts you which is at the root of the problem here.

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whateveryouwant · 14/02/2015 22:53

Maybe I had too much to drink but how can no one see anything wrong here?

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LittleMissRayofHope · 14/02/2015 22:57

Because we're grown ups.

Because men are allowed to have female friends.

Because Facebook is everything that is wrong with the world.

And because it's half term.

That's why we can't see what is wrong.....

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 14/02/2015 23:00
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whateveryouwant · 14/02/2015 23:01

I just have a feeling I'm going to get hurt...

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Handywoman · 14/02/2015 23:04

Then finish it!

NoisyOyster · 14/02/2015 23:04

Well then LTB if you're already fretting about getting hurt over him looking forward to meeting up with one of his friends one day

Sheesh (!!!)

Ludways · 14/02/2015 23:06

If you feel you're going to get hurt, there must've been something in your mind before that fb post. The post alone isn't anything to worry about.

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 14/02/2015 23:06

On a more serious note, it's the kind of thing I would write on anybody my friends wall, male or female, and would not mean I was interested in them romantically. But anyway this fb comment is a massive red herring here; your insecurity, being emotionally invested very early in the relationship, and mismatched levels of comfortable communication at this stage, are the real issues, surely?
I say all that as someone who does exactly the same. I'm working on it, though!

babygiraffe86 · 14/02/2015 23:07

Oh god - my friend (male) lives in oz - I write on his Facebook all the time that i miss his face! Dp is fully aware of this and that it juSt means that, funnily enough, I miss my friends face!!! People can have opposite sex friendships where they don't see much of each other you know :-)

DinosaursStillExist · 14/02/2015 23:08

honestly it's a term I use with friends that I've not seen for too long and have had a laugh with. Not code for anything sinister or secretive. I think you're reading more into it than you need to and if you are genuinely worried then just ask him about it without being confrontational.

VanitasVanitatum · 14/02/2015 23:10

Dear god no I wouldn't be annoyed at all!!! That sounds completely innocent and friendly.

MajesticWhine · 14/02/2015 23:14

No, this is not worth getting upset over. When you have been hurt before, do you think it's possible you have been too possessive or demanding?

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whateveryouwant · 14/02/2015 23:16

no, my ex was the biggest player ever and I think this guy is the same. I haven't given any guy a chance since my ex years ago, I would like to trust this guy but I can't, he is just too similar to my ex

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Joysmum · 14/02/2015 23:29

I'm surprised you've both had the 'We're now exclusive' conversation at only one month in when he's not contacting you very often Confused

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