Ending a friendship because of her actions to one of her friends?

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I have a close friend (A) that I've known for a few years now, she introduced me to one of her friends (B) and we got talking.. exchanged number & added of facebook etc.

B was in a bad relationship with a man who repeatedly cheated on her and gambled their savings away, she finally had enough and threw him out which i was very glad for her. Its been around a month and a half now since then.

Anyways I was at a romantic restaurant last night with my partner and I saw A and B's ex having a cosy dinner together... I was extremely shocked and sent her a text asking 'what the hell she was doing' and left.

About an hour later i got a big essay talking about how you cant help who you fall in love with and that she hoped it wouldnt affect our friendship since she hasn't done anything to me.

I havent replied but im just left here thinking that i dont want to be friends with someone that can do this to another friend? And should I tell B what I saw?

Gosh that's a pickle!

Sounds like A is a mug. How can she go out with him when he has treated B so badly?

If A has 'fallen in love' as she puts it, I'd assume that this is shaping up to be a long term serious relationship. I'm betting that B will find out sooner or later as it is.

I think you should give A the chance to tell B herself. Perhaps reply telling her that?

Personally I would try to stay friends with both of them. I think part of being a friend is that you sometimes have to overlook the unkind and stupid things that your friends do and try to be understanding.

I think I would distance myself because it's not very loyal. He sounds like a right tosser, a cocklodger maybe and if they think they're in love already, he's definitely bad news. Based on the little bit of information you've given, I see red bunting and she is going to get burned in any case.

I think B deserves to know although I'm sure that's what this arsehole wants, women fighting over him.

I'd say 'look, you know what he's like, what he's done. YOu can't help who you fall in love with, but this man's cheated and he's spent large amount of his ex's money. Watch yourself with him. I'm worried for you"

and then I'd step back and let her get on with it and be there for her when it falls apart. She's human, she's screwing up; it's going to hurt B but you don't have to be partisan either way. You can be friends with both. You just have to say openly what A already knows, that's being a friend .. .as is being there in the aftermath.

I would be less worried about B being hurt about her ex than worried about A getting hitched up with a bloke who is known to be arsehole.

This may have been going on a while, of course, if there is already talk of love.

I would urge A to tell B - it may make her realise how stupidly she's behaving allowing this dreadful man to inveigle his way into her life.

And just be there for them both, without judgement.

B is well shot of the man.

Any reason to think he was cheating on B with A, though?