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Confused and ready to give up on him!

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whateveryouwant · 12/02/2015 17:41

Ok, there is this guy I have been dating for a few weeks, we have both been busy so only met up once but will meet up again soon. My problem is he never really contacts me, I am always the one that contacts him first (very rarely he initiates contact), when I do he tells me he misses me and how he can't wait to see me again etc... so my question is he seems interested in me yet he doesn't really contact me unless I contact him, what is his deal? Is this normal? I don't know if I am overreacting but I am ready to give up on him, as I don't want to get hurt, what should I do? Thanks

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GinSoakedBitchyPony · 12/02/2015 17:45

You've met up only once and he tells you he misses you ? Shock

CleanLinesSharpEdges · 12/02/2015 17:46

How often are you contacting him? What I mean is, does he get the chance to be the first one to make contact or are you in touch with him 10 times a day?

If it's days with no contact then he's just not that in to you.

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whateveryouwant · 12/02/2015 17:46

We know each other for many years, when I said we met up only once I meant since we started dating

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ImperialBlether · 12/02/2015 17:48

Well, you know actions speak louder than words.

Your actions: you keep getting in touch with him regardless of any reciprocation - this says you are more keen on him than he is on you.

His actions: zilch. He doesn't get in touch - this says he's not interested in you.

His words: "I miss you" - this says he's trying to keep you on the back burner (given he knows you're keen on him) in case he needs a shag.

Sorry, OP; this one's for the bin.

GinSoakedBitchyPony · 12/02/2015 17:48

Oh so you know him very well then? I'd like to see the answer to what Clean has asked above, but the things he's doing are often the way that a player will operate. What's his past relationship history?

Jan45 · 12/02/2015 17:49

Personally I would see this as a bad sign, it should be a two way street, lay off contacting him then you will have your answer.

GinSoakedBitchyPony · 12/02/2015 17:49

"His words: "I miss you" - this says he's trying to keep you on the back burner (given he knows you're keen on him) in case he needs a shag."

xposted with Imperial, but yes exactly my thoughts.

Rebecca2014 · 12/02/2015 18:14

A guy I have been dating for one month is like that...I am usually the one who has to text him BUT we have met up multiple times. If you have only met this guy once in 3 weeks then I would cut him off.

Also the miss you is strange.

ImperialBlether · 12/02/2015 18:15

Why don't you stop initiating contact, Rebecca, and see what happens?

Mum4Fergus · 12/02/2015 19:27

How often did you meet/communicate prior to dating?

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