My DP and I have been together for 2.5 years and previously lived togeher, (now have moved due to work, tempoaraily for a yea, of which we are 6 months into it).
My DP travles a lot with work. This has meant that I have seen him very little over the last few months, as when he gets back to the UK, we are living apart so it's not like I see him as soon as he is back etc. When we lived together my DP was extremely attentive and loving. Although not massively generous with his money, he would always make sure I had everything I needed, and treated me from time to time with little things like my favourite sweets (the traditionakl sweep shop ones), or a bunch of flowers. In particular, when he worked abroad when we lived together, he would make a big fuss of me and take me for dinner etc before he left, and when he got back we would have a celebratory drink or another meal out. Although I didnt like him working abroad so much, this made it all fine - I felt secure, loved, wanted and appreciated.
So fast-forward to now, and he still works away but now we dont live together, so our time together is even more limited than before. He never takes me for dinner on the last day we will see one another before he leaves, he doens't message as much when he's away and there's no demonstration of any effort to make me feel loved while he is away for a month - he seems ot just assume I will wait for him at his beck and call and be here waiting when he gets back (which I always am).
Last weekend he got back from a month away. We spoke everyday but probably had one decent conversation due to crap wifi connections and different time zones. On his last day, he asked what i wanted to do for valentines day.... I said I didnt mind, he could decide. I felt hurt that he hadn't come up with a plan himself and wanted to surprise me. Not only because it's valentines day but also beacuse it will be the first day i have seen him in 4 weeks.
Most of m friends, (if not all, actually), live with their DPs. They are always going away at weekends and doing interesting things with their DP - essentially making memories. I feel like I see my old DP in my friends' DPs...
What makes it worse is that my DP has enough money to make more of an effort, and actually, the things he used to do like buying a bunch of flowers cost less than a fiver..this is all WELL iwthin his budget.
I have confronted DP about this - I said I felt unloved and not appreciated particularly conerning the travel abroad and the living apart. He said he could see that he hadn't made the effort, and suggested looking into going away in 2 weeks time for a weekend. Last night I emailed him a potential place to go...this afternoon I get an email asking if I had looked at transport options. Why doesnt he do this? I dont want to be with someone where I am the sole driving force for spending quality time with my DP.
Sorry for the first-world-problem post. I guess I just want to know if anyone thinks I am being overly demanding or unfair on my DP? Feel so distant from him, I actually feel like I am single in terms of my everyday life.