My doctor said I was being abused

[BattlingBumpsUphill]

It's difficult to hear. Part of me knows they are right, and another part of me feels ashamed for making a fuss and for managing to let it happen again. It's not even from my partner, the person in question is a healthcare practitioner (similar to a member of a community mental health team) who has seriously overstepped professional boundaries and now left me in a very awkward situation.

I feel like I must have made them do it, even though I know nobody can make anyone else do anything they don't want to do.

I also am so guilty at talking to my doctor about this, like I'm not grateful for the help I got.

I keep second guessing myself and wondering if I am over reacting or if I am in the wrong. The mental healthcare practitioner in question has accused me of being manipulative in the past, which I feel is unfair.

Confused and frustrated.

It sounds like you know "in your head" that the situation is abusive, but your heart feels like you are somehow at fault.

Abusive people are very good at making their victims feel responsible.

What has your doctor suggested should be your next step?

Poor you! This sounds like an awful position to be in. I don't really know what to say but I wanted to post something.

If your GP thinks there has been abuse, then he must have good grounds for saying that.

It is normal for victims to feel guilty for reporting it.

But you felt the need to report something and it would have been wrong to not trust your instincts... You haven't done anything wrong. What did the GP say to do?

Dr said cut contact immediately with the person. I usually see them every 3 weeks for support.

My instincts don't feel reliable. I can see that it is true that things should not have happened because it was not professionally appropriate. The thing is they helped me a lot also, before turning a bit nasty. So I keep thinking of the good times and making excuses for the unprofessional behaviour. How many excuses can you make for someone though?

You did the right thing telling your doctor what has happened and you should take their advice to cut contact. If the person who abused you is in a position of authority they are extremely dangerous and have to be dealt with. You are not responsible. Hopefully, your doctor will report the abuser's behaviour.

Oh god you absolutely did the right thing about telling your gp! They have a duty to keep that confidential (unless children are at risk)

I don't know where in the country you are, but many councils take abuad support very seriously as it does pose real risks to health, and creates health issues that require monitoring/treatment.

Who is this person to you? Why the rigid programme of visits?

Let the people that want to help you do their job. Get this recorded on your notes, in case you need legl back up at some point

You are going to be ok.