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How and when should I tell friends and family that we are separated?

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Somethingtodo · 09/02/2015 21:22

I have no parents, STBXH moved in with his DM (so she knows), I have told my closest friends and closest sibling and school. How and when I tell the rest? Other siblings I have "ishoos" with - not overt - but dont feel that I owe them anything - friends we see once a year? Am I obliged to inform them proactively - or just wait for them to hear on the grape -vine - send a short text - or just wait until our paths cross?

WDYD?

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MadeMan · 09/02/2015 21:38

"Am I obliged to inform them proactively"

I don't think you're obliged to do anything, it's your business and nobody elses.

I vote for grapevine.

MessyRedHairSoThere · 09/02/2015 21:46

Bush telegraph!

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Somethingtodo · 09/02/2015 22:54

Thanks - this has really been bugging me - you are right I need to get out of FOG - and even if I bump into someone in the supermarket I dont have to discuss it or announce it - I am sure my teenagers have put it on twitter, instagram, facebook, snap chat, whatsapp etc already

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Somethingtodo · 13/02/2015 11:45

Have sent of my 2 siblings a simple text as cousins will get together over half term - got a simple 'sorry to hear that' response which I am relieved by as was expecting the Spanish Inquisition and judgemental shite. Have chosen not to tell the other 2 siblings as they never tell me anything - so I dont feel the need to update them.

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