What to do? What to do?

[tammybear]

Ok, heres my story lol. My ex is living in Derbyshire whilst Im in Watford. He sees dd every 3 weeks as his parents are free then to drive him down to see her. We do NOT get on AT ALL!! In fact I could kill him!! Lol. He's gettin a parental responsibility order, which Im happy to sign for him, as itll shut him up a bit lol. However, he wants to hav dd at his house more often for long weekends. Not so happy bout this. We tried this out once before over 2 nights, and I got 3 txts, one for each day. I was not happy as I was worried sick most of the time. I don't feel comfortable with him having her as he makes it so difficult for me to trust him, but I want to be able to so I can have time to myself and dd gets to see her daddy. Any advice on what to do? Or what can help me to feel more at ease?

Yes my x emotionally blackmails the situation constantly. I have to be a good girl for him to "babysit", nothing to do with him missing or wanting to see them. It's a treat for me. Do keep everything, because they may start throwing accusations and blaming you, when things don't go according to their plan. Good uck with it all. I have a feeling you don't think he should have P R , are you coming to that decision, don't let him bully you.

Well, I need to see my solicitor first before I make any decisions but from what people have been saying I dont think I want him to get it. Its not just cos of what he thinks hell get out of it, but for my future husband (if there will ever be one). Ill just have to see how things go. It all started cos they wanted to see dd at easter weekend but we were busy so I said they couldnt cos we had plans. Then they were threatening with solicitors, so Ive got a feeling he may drop it. But who knows!

Tammybear, if he goes to court he will get a PRO almost automatically. It won't make any difference if you get married. Your ex sounds tricky though, I have to say.

Good for you, don't let him intimidate you, well done for seeing your solicitor. He probably will drop it, just trying to scare you, but he should scared. Good luck again with it all.