Ex accusing me of mental health problems

[lostmyjomo]

My ex is causing me a lot of stress and is constantly accusing me of having various mental health issues. I think / know he is hoping that by accusing me of being unstable that he will gain custody of our DD.

I am not unstable in the slightest, in fact I lead a very full, very happy life. I have a loving and supportive family, and quite frankly things couldn't be any better apart from him always being in the back of my mind wondering what he's going to come up with next.

His accusations are always via email, and really don't make much sense. Always saying I need help and how sad it is that I can't see it. Blah blah blah.

What can he achieve from this if anything? Although I may not sound it, I am worried as I know he won't stop at anything to have DD live with him.

I'd reply 'the only crazy thing I did was to start printing your emails out single sided - but now I am on double sided AND I use the custom print setting to save ink, all is tickety boo'.

Why do these idiots believe they are all qualified psychiatrists? Baffling.

Create a separate folder for his emails, so that they are evidence, but you don't have to read them.

The courts hear this nonsense every day.

All he is doing is digging a deeper hole for himself. ALL, every single one, allllllllllllll abusers peddle this shit. And the really funny thing is that they think that people don't know that.

It is pathetic. And it has sod all to do with wanting your kids, or what is best for them. Don't think for one moment that the "system" doesn't know this. They do.

Just to agree - if it went to court, the only harm done would be to his case. My ex has told solicitors, judges, CAFCAS and social services that I'm a violent alcoholic with depression who alternately beats and neglects our dd, once had a fist-fight with an employer, and apparently is some sort of sexual deviant - I never found out exactly what, and I admit I'm rather intrigued.

It's pretty obvious that there's no link to reality. If your ex really was concerned about your MH and your dc's welfare, he'd approach it entirely differently. Everyone who works in this area understands the difference, they really do.

even if you have been to see your gp about depression or anxiety, this alone does not mean he will gain sole charge of your DC.
it has to be far more serious than that.

just ignore.
do not reply
send him a desist or i will report email.

and follow thru.

how often does he see dc?

application fee to court is around £200 so he could get that money and apply himself - but if he seeing the DC already why would he do that?

btw my ex who has been diagnosed with serious mh issues used to constantly send texts/emails saying "you are sick" "you need help" etcetc.

Just make a report to your local force. They should issue a notice to him telling him that his behaviour is unwelcome and harassing in nature and that if he does it again he will be arrested and prosecuted. Don't bother going to the county court, going to the police will cost you nothing amd if he ends up in court a restraining order has more teeth than a non-mol

Thanks for all the advice . His BS has been bringing me down and weighing on my mind for far too long and it's time to put a stop to it one way or another.

I emailed him warning him to cease all non contact related communication. Now wish I hadn't as I can just imagine him running around showing everyone laughing at me. In desperation yesterday I told him he couldn't have any further contact with DD. Now today I said he can but on the provision he stops harassing me. I feel so stupid.

Well, if someone came to me and showed me an email requesting them to stop harassing someone, I would certainly raise an eyebrow (at him). I don't suppose many people will be laughing with him.

Yes, definitely the script.

Mine was doing this to me and then his emails turned up in court documentation (without my responses to them) - as if him making the accusation in writing to me made it true!

Another thing that I worked out that he was doing was blind copying in his latest girlfriend on emails to me making all sorts of weird and wonderful accusations. At the time I just thought that he was being bonkers and ignored it, but later realised what he was up to - probably to justify why he wasn't still with me (I must be mad - rather than I finished it with him because he was a lying, cheating ….! :) :)

Agree with what others have said about informing the police and sending him a letter informing him that his letters are harassment etc.

Hi OP. I mentioned that contact makes a harassment injunction more complicated, because you can't go completely NC if access is to continue. This means the injunction would have to be professionally drafted, so as to make plain what the court would consider harassment and what it would consider normal.

Still, he's a fuckwit. I like fuckwits: they're really good at digging their own holes. I got one to admit impersonation once. In writing.

Hi. I'm sorry to hear you're going through this.
This definitely sounds like a projective power trip to me.
And 10 emails in a night along this vein constituting "the norm" spells harassment.
Report and log everything with the police.

Just wanted to say thanks to everyone posting. I'm in a horribly similar situation and this has helped me immensely. You're all brilliant x