I have been dating this guy for a few weeks (I've known him for many years though), I have only seen him once as we don't live in the same town and since our first date we have both been busy and haven't seen each other. Before the first date we use to text a lot, after the first date he didnt text as much. The date was really good and he said straight away he wanted to see me again, after the date he texted me saying he had a great time etc... as I said after that he didnt text much. I started to get really confused (I went to that first date thinking he is not going to like me, I guess this thought didn't help) and recently confronted him, he told me he was having some family problems and he apologized and asked me to go and spend a few days with him soon, I agreed.
I really want this to work but I am feeling so insecure (I think anyway), I've been really hurt in the past, I basically was with the biggest player ever and he really messed up my head. I am now starting to think that this guy is probably like him, but I don't know whether it's just a feeling or if it's because of what I went through in the past. The reason why I have doubts is first of all the lack of effort from him (or maybe I'm just expecting too much and I'm being selfish!) to contact me (even though he apologized already) and the amount of girls he is friends with on facebook! I know this may sound silly, but every time he posts a pic or anything loads of girls like and comment and it's just annoying, also nearly everyday he is adding girls as friends (having said that he also adds guys, but that doesn't bother me lol). We briefly discussed girls and facebook and messages on our first date (as apparently he had problems with this in previous relationships), he told me that he understands that people may see him as a player based on his facebook but he isn't and never cheated on a girlfriend... I would like to think he isn't using me, surely if that was the case he could get someone else who lives in his town, he is very good looking and girls love him... but I don't know... I don't know if how I feel is because of my ex, like I constantly feel like this guy is ignoring me (because my ex did that to me), I think he is sending messages to other girls (because my ex did that to me), I don't think he will be faithful, again because of my ex! It's like I don't know what is real anymore... he tells me things like "I miss you!" and "I have a good feeling about us" but I don't believe him,I think he is telling me what I want to hear! So don't know whether my feeling is right or I am just completely messed up from my last relationship. Sometimes I feel like I am going to blow up with frustration! What are your opinions ladies?
Based on everything I just wrote should I give it a try? Thanks