Just been dumped-by someone I really love :(

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DP and I have been together 2 plus years and on fri night i was dumped. Feeling totally heart broken, terrified of the future.Two years ago I split from the father of my child who I was with for 7 years.....this break up is bringing up a lot of feelings from that of loss, anxiety, pain

How do people find new partners when they are single parents? I dont know why my dp didn't want me anymore, I put in so much love and didn't want it to end :(

I don't think a new relationship is what you need just yet. You didn't give yourself time to process your 7 year a relationship ending by the sounds of it. You MUST give yourself some time how to just be before getting it on with somebody new.

I'm sorry you're hurting... let yourself vent it out.

I'm so sorry. Did he give a reason as to why he ended it? Most single parents I know have found partners online but I agree that you need to give yourself some space to grieve for the relationship.

Oh OP. for you. It's good that you've posted about this - it's clearly come as a huge shock for you and that's just a horrible experience to have had. You must have had a shit weekend.

All I can say is that loads and loads of people find new partners later in life, with or without children. Just because this guy wasn't the right one doesn't mean you won't find someone else in due course, when you're ready. Also, just because you weren't the right person for this guy doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or that you need to change.

I think it's natural and normal to feel anxiety alongside all the sadness in these situations - you've just lost something you thought was certain and it hurts like crazy, especially initially. You just have to get through that first bit. Try to keep eating and drinking as normally as you can, and make sure you get outside with your child for walks and relaxation. Be gentle to yourself!

I think that the first relationship after a stale marriage can give you a rush for the first 18m then it starts to die off a bit. Maybe that's what happened for him.

When I split with my exh I had a relationship with someone in a similar boat. We had both only been separated for 2 months and whilst it was very intense for 18m, once the lust started to wear off, I found we had little in common. I ended it.

Sorry it's ended but sometimes things just run their course. Doesn't matter how much love you put in if it's not reciprocated, sadly. You seem too anxious to find a replacement - understandably if you're feeling rejected. But please be with people who love you, take comfort in your friends and DCs, and get your confidence back rather than leaping straight back into dating.

thanks everyone for your responses, im just looking up the book Buttercup,

I think the hardest thing is to have to let go of someone you still love and think the relationship can work...acceptance is hard, denial is easy

shovetheholly is right. If ultimately he didn’t love you the way you loved him, it doesn't mean there was something wrong with you, or that you caused this result.

You say you put in so much love. I hope that doesn't mean you didn’t stand up for yourself, or let everything go his way. Welcoming someone with open arms doesn't mean you stop deserving to get your own needs met.

Don't beat yourself up looking for reasons. Closure is permission to move on, but you can give it to yourself.

Take a break from thinking about dating while you heal. Spend the next few weeks/months trying to focus on your self esteem: your child, your friendships, and work.

In my experience, nothing hurts as much as losing someone you love. It's going to be pretty horrible for a while, but it generally helps to talk.