I am struggling with my relationship with my sister. Most of our lives we have had an ok relationship, we are very different personalities so not always easy. Occasionally we've had huge arguments, other times we get on great, we have the same sense of humour.
Over the last 4 months we have become really distant. I have a baby who has a number of health issues. The last few months have been about baby (they've had to be). I have been exhausted, putting everything into our gorgeous little one. Sometimes just getting through each day. (I guess like all new parents except for the added health stuff which has been pretty scary at times).
She has shown absolutely no interest whatsoever in baby. Not visited (she lives a long way away so not that easy anyway but she's been close to my area several times (within hour or two) and made no attempt to visit. Occasional comments asking how baby is but rarely. Maybe twice since born.
She is getting married next month. She calls me irregularly and has long conversations about her wedding. Doesn't even ask bout baby. Feel shes annoyed baby has come along now. We struggled to conceive for very long time. People know of some of our struggles, everyone delighted for us. Not sure if she is jealous.
Shes had several horrible and frankly bizarre conversations with me over the last few months where she turns a innocuous comment I've made into something awful. I hate talking to her, am very careful what I say because of these incidences. She just loses it when I KNOW I'm not being rude, unfair, unkind in anyway.
She has turned a lot of people against her over the wedding due to her extreme bridzilla behaviour.
She's always been pretty selfish/ self-centred though usually I've always thought the world of her/ been very proud of her (she's very talented in a particular hobby/ skill). For a while though I've really not liked her.
As her sister, should I be telling her that her bride behaviour isn't ok?
I feel awful, but when I hear people commenting on her behaviour (usually implying stuff rather than calling her selfish, self-centred), it's really hard to stand up for her. I dodn't feel I could say anything to her, she wouldn't accept it from me.
When I look back she's always been pretty selfish, though great fun. When I've been in need, its rare shes been there but other wasy round I've gone to huge efforts to be there for her.
I've no idea what I'm asking here but would like to know peoples thoughts.
Thanks in advance, sorry its so long.