Dp is convinced im cheating

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I tried to nc but it won't sodding work

I have been with Dp 9 years & I'm currently 7 months pregnant with a much longed for baby .

Dp has been a bit 'off' with me for the past week or so & thursday he finally admitted that he thinks I'm cheating (well more than thinks iyswim)
I have no idea where this is coming from as I don't leave the house without Dp & only then it's once a fortnight & I don't speak to anybody other than Dp or my family .

I suffer from severe anxiety and depression which is one of the reasons I don't leave the house the other being severe SPD so I can barely move .
In all honesty I just stay in bed every day til he gets in from work as I can't even face leaving my bedroom I just feel that bad .

So why he thinks I'm cheating on him I'll never know. We have barely spoken the past couple of days as I'm just devastated that he could think that of me especially when I'm so bloody pregnant , he keeps saying he has forgotten about it and he does trust me but I don't know wether I can just forget it , forget that he can think so little of me .
I don't know what to do , my heads just telling me to leave but I don't have anywhere to go as I don't have any friends and my family don't have the space .

I need somebody to tell me what to do cos I'm just a complete and utter mess because of all this

I won't be acting/behaving differently at all & he doesn't expect me too , he says he will see the GP but won't be until next month now

Why don't you have any friends? Did you used to have any, before you met him?

I moved to where I am as a teenager & just never had the opportunity to make friends , me having no friends has nothing to do with Dp I just don't feel comfortable round other people

I'm very sorry you're having such a horrible time. It sounds like you both need to see a GP now.

You can take certain ADs while pregnant as a PP has said, go and see a different doctor urgently. Also, why can't your husband see a GP until next month? Sounds like he needs to go now, I know of a couple of men who became severely depressed and irrational before the birth of their first child, they suddenly felt a lot of additional pressure on them, maybe this explains his behaviour. If so he needs help ASAP.

That said, I'm in no way minimising that he accused you of cheating, that is not acceptable. In view of what you've said though it does sound very irrational and out of character. Good luck.

The surgery only have available appointments for Next month unless you ring on the day for an emergency appointment and then you have to beg & also he has to book the time off work and can't do that at such short notice .

This isn't Dps first child .

I tried seeing another GP at my surgery but he was in agreement with my GP so I gave I'm asking for help & I'd almost built up the courage to say something to my midwife and then she went on sick leave so that kinda threw me .

I'm ok when I'm on my meds , I had finally started doing stuff etc which is why I plan on going straight back on them as soon as my Ds is born

*gave in

You're in pain, your sad, you're preoccupied and your stressed out husband has miss read the signals and his imagination has gotten away from him. Keep talking to each other, be kind to him and ask him to be kind to you, it only gets harder when the baby arrives.

I have never heard of such unsympathetic treatment by not one GP but two ! It sounds to me like he doesn't believe you are depressed/too depressed and need to start getting your act together in preparation for the birth and baby's first few weeks. As I don't know you, I can't possibly tell if he is being cruel to be kind or an utter uncaring bastard.
My biggest worry for you would be how on earth are you going to cope with a new baby ? I understand dp can take some paternity leave but after two weeks ? When you are currently too depressed to leave your bedroom ? Am I right in assuming you have no family close by ?. I would seriously have a word with hospital staff when you have the baby, as 2 gps and a midwife ignoring your needs is simply not right and will put far too much stress on your partner.

I think the cheating thing was him having a funny five minutes, he has an awful lot on his plate at the moment and you should probably give him a break, if, as you have assured us, he is not abusive in anyway.

Like I said I'm fine when I'm on my medication & I plan on going straight back on it when the baby is born .

Looking after a new born & all it entails is something I have done before so I know I can cope/manage

OP, you say you've looked after new borns ? Have you had a baby before ?

I raised my sister from when she were born & I have a 7yo Ds as well

but I can't go back on any medication until I have had the baby as he is insistent the baby will be born an addict

Your GP is talkng shite

I'm guessing he is accussing you of something he might be guilty of .. some men do it. He might not but worth asking him

I have asked him & he hasn't/ isn't & I believe him .

Yup my GP is utter crap

What cinnabar said.

Btw I was on citalopram when pg and bf.

All fine

How is your 7 yr old coping with you unable to leave your bedroom and sleeping all day ?

My 7yo goes to school & I get up with him in a morning & evening & he is staying with family at weekends