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four months on

11 replies

afreshstartplease · 07/02/2015 07:21

Four months on from separation from xp/dcs dad And finally he seems to have given up trying to get me to try again

It feels weird

Not bad weird
Not good weird

Just weird

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Anniegetyourgun · 07/02/2015 08:30

Like banging your head against a brick wall, eh? It feels peculiar when you stop. But stopping is totally the right thing to do.

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afreshstartplease · 07/02/2015 08:53

Ty for that view on it!

Was begining to worry I wanted him back

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Rebecca2014 · 07/02/2015 09:50

I feel the same, 5 months on for me and I have found out ex is dating someone. I feel strange about it...I don't know how to describe my feelings but I am looking at old pictures and feeling... sad.

It is strange spending so many years with a person, building a life with them only for it to end.

I know how you are feeling, you don't want be with them but the feeling and knowing it is all over is very weird.

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afreshstartplease · 07/02/2015 10:25

Hi Rebecca

Glad im not alone! How long were you with your ex? Did you have any children together?

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theendoftheendoftheend · 07/02/2015 10:42

I'd just gotten my head round the new GF when he declared they've split up because he still loves me and wants his family. Its all bullshit and I expect he'll be back with said GF before too long if the poor girls silly enough but it's so annoying because I feel like I'm back at square one having been dumped on from a great height!
If only we never had to see them again! Urgh

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afreshstartplease · 07/02/2015 11:45

Well there has been no mention of anyone else with mine but I told him to keep it to himself if there was anyway so who knows

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theendoftheendoftheend · 07/02/2015 11:57

I said the same, no one needs a running commentary of their ex's sex life. Unfortunately he 'has' to tell me because he likes to introduce them to the DC.
To be fair 4 months isn't very long, and if he's changed his behaviour it's like the next phase of the grieving process. How old are the DC?

arlagirl · 07/02/2015 12:01

This is my last weekend as a wife and its weird. Last few weeks have been awful and I just want him to leave.
He's made it clear he wants a new relationship and that's fine....but I will tell dcs I'm not interested in knowing anything about dads life post divorce.

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afreshstartplease · 07/02/2015 12:05

My dc are 7, 5 and 1

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theendoftheendoftheend · 07/02/2015 12:21

Mine are 6, 4 and nearly 2 Smile
It's sharing the DC that makes it so hard, the enforced contact slows the moving on process I think

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afreshstartplease · 07/02/2015 12:25

tbh my exp isn't one to be after much contact

Couple of hours at a time max

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