parents want us all to meet up

[22ann]

my parents have said at our sons christening we'll have to meet up some time, my mil has suggested they give them a ring if they'd like to go out in a birthday card to my dad & then in a birthday card to my mum - looking forward to seeing you soon. i spoke to my mum about it & she suggested we all go for a meal the six of us. i desperately don't want to get into meeting up as i find it too much both sides of the family together, i said this to her and that it's nice to see both sides of the family separetly and if they wanted to go out themselves thats upto them.
my mum said they'd probably arrange something next month. now i feel that if they do meet up & anything they're not happy about regarding our son/us will be discussed, almost like we're being ganged up on.

blimey, you don't know how lucky you are! haven't you seen meet the fockers?

Have you any reason to beleive that they would gang up on you? I'd be delighted that they were getting on. If you don't want to get involved I don't really see how you can object to them getting together.

I'd be happy for them to all meet up - it's nice that they get on, and they'll probably just discuss how marvellous they think your son is all evening.

I wouldn't be worried about them discussing you though - they can have their opinions, but you don't have to do what they say.

Don't go yourselves if you don't want to - and then you won't even know what is being said!

DH & I met 32 years ago this month - since then, both sets of parents have met twice - once at our wedding, and once just after DS was born. I think FIL met my mum once & MIL met my dad - that's it.

thanks for your messages, i am pleased they get on, we have all got together once before our wedding (18 months ago)@ the wedding then we invited them over after when we got the photos back, which was spent by them talking between themselves & my dh & i not being able to get a word in edgeways, then @ our ds christening.
my m & fil are very opinionated & think their way is the only way my folks aren't particularly but have had to ask my mum to give me some space as she wanted to come round & ring all the time up till my ds was about 4/5 months. f & mil are both retired now & would like to call round in the week but we have asked them to come round when we're altogether (dh & i) at the weekend. i feel that they would like to organise our lives(something my mother & m & fil try to do)when/if they meet up.
But like you say - if we're not there we won't know what's being said & we make our own decisions anyway, i still feel like they would plotting things though.
i wish they weren't bothered about meeting up but it is there choice.

my mil was really keen to have a party after we got married as we didn't have an evening do so she couldn't invite all their friends, even though they did invite a dozen to the wedding, but we said we didn't want to do that, which they weren't very happy about. Then she suggested we all get together my dh & i, my parents & sister & husband, i said that as we didn't see them very often it's nice to see them on their own, she wasn't very happy about that either, saying i just thought your mum might like it. she rang my mum (which i found out about the other day) and asked my mum if i had mentioned it, my mum said no but thought it was because i felt a bit overwelmed by it. i feel a bit on edge about it being suggested again because mil will be funny with us again! she doesn't accept me particularly so it's another axe for her to grind.