How do i tell my husband we need help

[SaucyMare]

He is currently working away from home, it has just struck me this last couple of weeks i am a lot more relaxed during the week when he isnt here.

I nag hm far too much. But i do love him loads.

Nagging is an awfully sexist word. It is often an indicator of a lazy selfish man wanting the woman to stop demanding he does his fair share. Or any share.

So what do you have to nag him about?

It was my word not his, i could have said controling. I honestly think a problem is my expectations are over the top, but i cant discuss rationally at home.

What are your expectations? Why can't you discuss it rationally?

I get angry and start shouting

About what?

I don't know now. Honestly i am not a dormat being walked over by a lazy cock lodger. He is a bit slack, which is most of the niggles. Stuff like he doesnt wipe the surfaces after making everyone's lunch. He isnt expecting me to do it, he will do it before starting cooking dinner (or just push it to the side and pile more on top).

Well if he is being mostly reasonable but you can't talk to him about it without getting angry and shouting then it is probably you that needs the help not him.

If he is away in the week, presumably you run things the way you like then he comes back and is mucks up your routines. That would be annoying. Angry shouting is a bad reaction to feeling annoyed. Choose not to do it.

Or is there more to it?