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STBXH wants parental responsibility for his gf

10 replies

FTS123 · 05/02/2015 04:12

I have been informed by him that he will be seeking parental responsibility for his gf for our children. Can he do this? Why would he do this? Does he have to have grounds to do it? He is hell bent on hurting me for divorcing him. Have I got any chance of stopping him doing it? They have been together nearly two years, not married, obv, we are not divorced yet. Someone help please?

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JoanHickson · 05/02/2015 04:38

Let him try to get it for her. I would be shocked if he gets it.

Nolim · 05/02/2015 04:50

Talk to a solicitor

RandomNPC · 05/02/2015 05:23

Find a solicitor that deals in Family Law and who'll give you a free half an hour. I've never heard of this before.

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 05/02/2015 05:24

He's spouting bollocks

ZeldaMae · 05/02/2015 05:26

my DH has PR for DS1. There is a 'step-parental responsibility form' that had to be signed by all people with PR (my ex signed happily)

just so everyone knows, up to six people can have PR and someone else having it doesn't take it away from you

  • it is called 'step-parental'
  • if my ex had refused we would've had to go to court

I think your ex is free to waste his money however he wants.

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 05/02/2015 05:29

My understanding is she would have to be a step parent, so married to him.

Original poster
FTS123 · 05/02/2015 05:44

I know it won't take responsibility away from me, but the children have two parents already. He's just desperate to do anything to hurt me for divorcing him. He's threatening custody too Hmm it's making me miserable, I adore my DCs obviously and I think I am a great mummy. I'm quite happy for his girlfriend to be in their lives, she's nice enough and adores them, but for me this is a step too far. I'll be talking to my solicitor this morning.

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Finola1step · 05/02/2015 05:47

Let him try it. He's a fool.

FolkGirl · 05/02/2015 06:01

A court wouldn't grant PR to a girlfriend. What if they split up next week?

She doesn't need PR. The court will make a decision in the best interests of the children. There is no benefit to your children for her to have it.

As a person with PR, you can refuse to allow it - just don't agree to it.

Get legal advice.

He's a idiot!

newnamefor15 · 05/02/2015 13:06

They can want it all they like. If you don't agree, it goes to court. If they can be bothered, there is little reason (no reason actually) for a judge o give a girlfriend PR as well.

don't worry about it. I'll bet it won't go further than him trying to wind you up about it. Ignore.

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