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Crap with dating and men, so can someone tell me if this is normal

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jessmay · 04/02/2015 19:04

Ok, I have a man that I met on the internet. We had a very brief coffee, went great, and since that he wanted to go on a date and was pursuing quite a lot. I agreed and he actually agreed to go to a party with me a couple of hours away but was called away on a work trip and had to cancel at the last minute.

He's been texting a lot from his work job and has actually skyped me twice from where he is away.

I do like him but keep noticing he's online a lot on POF, I mean, to the point he's obviously still exchanging messages with someone else. I'm not messaging anyone else, but do go online to check messages from curiosity but when I noticed how much he was online I found myself doing that embarrassing checking thing.

I know in my head that when you've been on one date and you're only texting etc. that no one owes you anything...but can't help feeling a bit miffed.

Am I being completely ridiculous and should just leave it and stop checking? Or is this a sign he might not be a very honest person?

I personally could not message anyone else while I am in this "getting to know you" process with him but I understand not everyone is the same.

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AlisonBakersdaughter · 06/02/2015 16:09

I don't think he's doing anything wrong if you're not exclusive.

Its best not to be intense or share too much information until you are. Learn from this and be more detached in future otherwise it screws up your head.

jessmay · 07/02/2015 16:38

Just a note to say thank you for MNers for chilling me out on that one. Instead of sulking or freaking out or mentioning it I did as suggested and went on regularly myself.

After 2 - 3 days of that he sent me a message to gently ask me if I was talking to anyone else and I said I was just keeping my options open at this stage and he said HE was little jealous, and that I should know I had no competition.

Anyway, will leave it at that for a while and we can discus exclusivity at a later date but I am definitely so glad I didn't make a fool of myself being all jealous and having a hissy fit about it early on.

I also said I didn't really like the part of OD which allows people to court multiple people at once but until he volunteers to come off...I'm not either!

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