I know what you re going to say but I need to hear it to be sure

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Ok just for reference because I've been single a long time and need to know I'm not looking for a reason to ditch this guy before it's even come to anything...

I've met a guy online. Not met in person but was planning to. I wanted to just talk for a few weeks first.

Ok so he seemed nice, normal you know no weird messages, no indecent photos etc. ie not weird.

Only he other day he said that he has issues with jealously and that he has ended all his relationships recently due to this. Reason being his long term partner cheated on him with a close friend.

I was a bit that all his relationships had ended because if this but I thought you know I don't know how that would feel so didn't say anything more.

This week I mentioned I'm going to see a film that I've been waiting on coming out and am a bit excited about (I'm boring like that) . He just asked who with.
I said my friend (make). Then he texted that it "sounds like a date" to him.

I'm weirded out. I've not even met this guy and he's asking about my make friends like that ? It's a huge red flag isn't it ?

I said that it wasn't a date and he said fine I dont want to row over it !!

Wtf ??

Row over it ? I need to delete and block don't i ?

Or am I being a suspicious cow ?

I wonder if you will be, in his head, another 'relationship' he ended through his jealousy?

So, yeah, hope those boots are comfy.

linerunner

That is a very interesting thought. He has not responded since I said no actually xxx is a close friend I've know for years.

I wonder if he has done the ditching for me and is mentally putting me in the cheating woman box ?

Just why would anyone behave like this before even an official date ? So odd.

Just what can he hope to achieve ?

F that nonsense. Block him.

OP, he could be still acting out his victimhood. Proving to himself how fucked over he was by the Ex.

And you escaped your walk on part in his drama very nicely.

Must be linerunner

Meanwhile, there are nice blokes out there. I am frequently heartened to hear of MNetters who met their long-term partners online.

I'm sure there are. I'm just not sure if there is one for me. I've never managed a relationship.

Just stuff like this or disastrous dating.

Well, your twatdar is pretty good.

Also you know when a male friend is just a friend. So, good boundary setting!

I think you shouldn't give up yet.

I'm trying not to but so many bad ones and bad experiences. I feel I'm going to end up alone.

It's an in joke between male friend and I. If we both end up alone we might move in together and get a cat and be crazy cat people.

I think you need to run run run

If you're down south I have plenty of lovely single male friends (I'm happily married to someone I met on pof which is why I wouldn't date them!) who are finding online dating a pita. The 'crazies' aren't just limited to men you know!

I have a nice male friend too, although he is in his forties so perhaps a little old for you!

Yes 40s would be a little old for me.

thejimney I'm in yorkshire

Deleta and block

Well if you ever relocate

Seriously though I think that the bad dates/weird messages are par for the course with online dating. I'm still dining out on a couple of mine and I was in stitches the other day when DH was reminded of a terrible date he went on and told me about it.

You obviously have a good twat radar for more serious things but try not to get too down. Also check your profile, is it showing what you want in a person not just 'advertising' (for want of a better phrase! ) you?

Thank you. I am still new to online dating I just have a profile rather than a list of stuff I want in a DP.

To be honest I'm fairy attractive and don't have any problem attracting men. Just not the ones I'm attracted to or that aren't weird.

I guess I just have to keep trying.

Fairly ! Not fairyz