I have pneumonia and pleurisy

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I am ill and my family have been really fantastic in looking after me. My hubby is great but he is now announcing to me (not in a nasty way) that i must be feeling better now as i am eating a bit more the truth is i am only eating to stop him flapping around me, my 10 year son wants to help so he is constantly filling up my lucozade when all i want is a bit off peace and quiet. I love my hubby and my sons and appreciate all they are doing for me but I don't feel any better. I feel like i am being rushed is this normal or am I just be ungrateful ?

Oh you poor soul. My friend had pneumonia a year or two ago. She needed looking after for a couple of months: we put together a village rota to help out. She gradually increased the amount she could do but after two months or so we were still doing the school run for her and inviting her kids for extra playdates.

Pneumonia, even without pleurisy, is incredibly debilitating. How long have you been ill?

They are just terrified that you're ill. Totally normal I think and your loved ones look for any sign that you are getting better. I think this eagerness to have you well is normal really as it reassures them that you are ok.

I think they are just trying hard to support you and try and help you get better. And a lot of wishful thinking - looking for signs that you might be feeling better.

I know, I did it myself when I had pneumonia - looking for any little sign that might mean I was improving. And yes, DH and DD did it as well.

I hope you start to feel better soon. Pneumonia was awful and it took me so long to recover fully. Little steps - and hopefully you really will start to improve soon.

Tell your dh he's putting pressure on you and that it will take time for you to get better regardless of how much you are eating! Ask him to keep your DS away for a few days.

Rest up well, you must be shattered.

The doctor said that I had the flu, probably about 3 weeks ago as you cant get pneumonia without having had the flu first. I am a cleaner at the local docs surgery and i start at 5 am in the morning. I woke up feeling dodgy and just dosed myself with Day Nurse to get me through the cleaning. ( i don't even need the money i do the job to prove i can have a job if i want one) Anyway to cut a long story short my fellow cleaners said i look a bit rough and i just carry on the Day Nurse and looking after my family. The second week i felt ok not 100% but thought it was because i was tired from getting up so early so i carry on working. The week just gone i felt terrible again and ended up at the emergency appointments as Friday night was terrible i didn't sleep as i had awful pains in my ribs on par with giving birth I think. Basically i just did not realise i had the flu and then it had progressed on from that.

Poor you I had something similar and I felt rough for weeks. Are the antibiotics working, sometimes you need more than one lot plus you do need to rest. You are properly sick can get a doctors note and there should be no work consequences.

I think your family are just trying to encourage you, but be honest with your husband, say yes, i am eating or getting up but I still feel bad, I could be ill for weeks love, I don't think he is trying to pressure you to get better more to encourage you, but just tell him how it is and tell him how much you appreciate his support so far- but be honest about how ill you are in case you need more antibiotics or more time off.

I had pneumonia without having flu beforehand. Not sure who told you you can't.

And yes - do check with go of bit improving. I had 3 different types of antibiotics til they found the ones which worked.

I had pneumonia and pleurisy without flu too!
Take care of yourself - it is a horrible combination. I had 6 weeks in hospital and 3 months off work, had to relearn how to walk, the whole works. So just take things very slow and steady and make sure that you seek medical help if you feel worse or start getting any more symptoms.

I had pleurisy and pneumonia without flu back in 2001, I had six weeks off work. Take care of yourself, eat well and sleep well x

I've had this twice in a year without having the flu.
I would speak to your dh and tell him. He is only trying to help and wants you to get better, but I know it's very wearing. My Dh seems to think tea and toast cures everything.
Hope you feel better soon.

I certainly had pneumonia without having flu. Twice, and the second occasion came when I was 32 weeks pregnant with my second baby. Whoever told anyone that you can't get it without having flu first is talking bollocks. Much more likely that the GP said it can occur as a secondary infection following flu, but that doesn't mean you can't get it without having flu first.

OP, I am sure your family are just anxious about how ill you have been and are keen to see any small signs of improvement. They may not have realised that many lung infections do have a fairly lengthy recovery period before you feel half human again.

I do hope you improve soon.

It can take a young, fit adult quite a while to get over this; older people often have to be hospitalised. You need plenty of rest, fluids and analgesia for the pain associated with the pleurisy. You certainly shouldn't be rushing yourself; your family should understand that eating is only the first step. Avoid spending money on crap like Lucozade too, it's just sugary water.
It's also nonsense that you have to have the flu first to get pneumonia.

Oh, and get well soon

Just to back up what they others have said. I was in hospital for a week, off work for another 6 weeks and still not 'right' for about 4 months after that. (And I was pregnant too, with brittle asthma made worse by pregnancy.) if you do too much, you could make yourself ill again. I believe I had about 6 courses of antibiotics until I was 100%. Get well soon!