Techno dating novice

[alongcamespiders]

Quick question, I have been single for a while after having my fingers burnt numerous times...
I got back in touch with some old school friends on the social network, am very new to fb and don't really know how stuff works in terms of flirting, messaging etc.
a guy I had a 'thing' with at school (not sex, I was way too innocent then) messaged me and we were chatting loads for about a week, he'd instigate contact every day and we'd message through the evening, none of it particularly flirty and not at all sexual just chit chat, day to day stuff and a bit of reminiscing and silliness, all quite harmless and good fun.
Anyway, as you've pro guessed by now, the messages stopped abruptly. It was all normal and fine, last message was him saying goodnight on Saturday and me replying and that's it.
I know he's not dead as have seen he'd been logged in on messenger (stalker much?) he did allude a while ago to not messaging so much saying we'll have nothing to talk about when we have lunch (we're supposed to be meeting next week at his instigation but we haven't made a concrete date yet)
Gosh I'm rambling........so......my question is, what would you do? So far I haven't initiated any of the contacts, I haven't needed to as he always got there first, now I'm thinking should I just pipe up with a hi how are you or just let sleeping dogs lie? Thanks

It's a minefield out there. However in your position I'd say you have nothing to lose by sending a pleasant message and asking if he still wants to meet and if so, when. If he doesn't respond you know he's not someone to bother with And you know where you stand.

Thanks rumred that's kind of what I was thinking, that's kind of how an adult would respond. I wasn't sure if I'd be setting myself up for some kind of game push me pull you type affair. I have only really ever dealt with psychopaths, I don't know how to do it 'normally'.

Whaha what a coincidence, someone just posted this on fb!

I would just drop him a message and just say hey whats up, still want to meet?

I wonder if actually he's stopped messaging to see if you would initiate contact as a sort of test to see if you're bothered!

Hi pocketsaviour thanks for your reply, yes I believe it should just be that simple... Maybe I'll bide a wee while and do it to,or row if I don't hear tonight. I feel a bit silly worrying about the what if but I guess my worry is what if I just get a big fat no reply, or he replies and sees that I must be a bit desperate then plays me for a fool. Can you tell I have anxiety and very poor experiences of the opposite sex?!

He did text me just now to ask how I'm doing, gosh this minefield is too confusing, it's different now from when I was drunkenly lurching around collecting dates in the way that only young people can get away with! Crikey mikey, I'll just keep my eyes and ears open and try not to slip into any more gamey stuff.

He is married, he had also ramped up the flirting, stil quite gentle if it were single people flirting! Thank fuck I didn't meet him! His poor wife cos his messages were not appropriate for a married man. Fucking a hole.