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I'm gonna get judged like fuck here.

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Walkingmistake · 03/02/2015 06:04

I have bipolar 1 and have been unwell for over two years I was sectioned a few weeks ago.

My husband is verbally, physically abusive and has once tried to rape me.

The other day I realised he was making me unwell. So I left my husband and kids for another man. Couldn't take my kids as since I was sectioned im only allowed two hours unsupervised contact till I get better.

Since leaving I feel relieved and happy I am better than
I have been in two years.

I have walked away from house and all the furniture but as im recovering so well away from him I am
Putting my name down for a house so I can be ready to have more access. But I'm wondering if I should tell social that it was my husband constantly on at me making me unwell?

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marymouse · 03/02/2015 06:10

Why are you happy for your physically abusive husband to look after the children? Are they safe?
I'm glad your beginning to feel better but jumping into another relationship while your sectioned probably isn't a great idea.

Of course you must report your husband to social services asap

Rebecca2014 · 03/02/2015 06:19

Was your husband abusive to your children? Some men can be shit partners but good dads.

I would tell social services because it may make it easier you to see the kids, he may prevent access.

DropYourSword · 03/02/2015 06:31

I hope no-one judges you, you don't deserve that.

I do hope that we might encourage you to see that jumping into a whole new relationship to escape an old one isn't always a good idea. Lots of the time you need to focus on healing YOU first, before thinking of bringing someone else into the picture.

lougle · 03/02/2015 07:03

Would you say you are in a euphoric phase or a depressed phase right now? Have you talked to anyone about your decision? Do they agree that it's a sensible time to be making big decisions right now?

(II ask as a daughter of a wonderful woman who has bipolar)

owlborn · 03/02/2015 08:44

I'm BP1. Definitely talk to someone about this. If you've been sectioned that recently you may well not be in a good place to make judgements and your brain could be full of fizz.

From what you're saying I presume you're not in hospital - are you under a CMHT or home care treatment team? Do you have a named care coordinator or a pdoc? Please be a little cautious while your brain chemistry is out of whack.

nilbyname · 03/02/2015 08:46

Don't make any quick decisions, talk to your health care team.

Good luck!

BreakingDad77 · 03/02/2015 11:48

No one is going to judge you, bipolar disorder is a very very serious condition that needs management for you to be able to lead a 'normal' life.

I would agree with lougle.

Walkingmistake · 03/02/2015 12:50

I'm still under crisis team. But even crisis have said that since I left my head has been ten times better. I'm not euphoric or depressed for the first time in two years I feel like myself.

I can see what your saying about the relationship I will take things slowly and carefully.

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HootyMcTooty · 03/02/2015 14:39

I don't see why anyone would judge you, you've clearly been dealt a pretty raw deal.

Be careful with the new relationship, make sure you're not jumping out of the frying pan into the fire.

saltnpepa · 03/02/2015 19:18

You need to speak to your mental health care team and then social services to protect your children.

saltnpepa · 03/02/2015 19:19

Oh and the police to report your husband for attempted rape.

Walkingmistake · 04/02/2015 05:14

Thank you. I will speak to social services they are involved because I've been so unwell and have asked me several times if im being abused, so I will speak to them.

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