wanting to make new start

[babycow38]

i have been wanting to make a new start with dh. he had sex with ow , i am now feeling like i wanetrd to get my own back, had sex with one of his mates, feeling guilty but now feel like i have got my own back. i felt crap after he told me, said he didnt feel "like that" about me said he didnt fancy me. i only had sex with the om because i felt crap,and needed to feel wanted

he doesnt know i have had sex ith his friend

I'm sorry you had to find out the hard way that 'getting your own back' by demeaning yourself only leads to your self-esteem taking a further pounding. Now that you've done it I suppose you feel you and DH are all square somehow? That you can't take him to task over screwing around because you're as bad as he is? That's the other down-side of tit-for-tat affairs.... guilt over your own behaviour can keep you trapped in something that really isn't worth it.

Does DH want to make a new start? If so, how is he going about it? What is he doing to make amends? What has he suggested he should do in order to restore your trust?

So your DH said he doesn't fancy you any more? Is that right? Sounds like he has already emotionally checked out of the relationship if so.