can't get this out of my head! !

[ThePartyArtist]

I think I need to get a grip with how broody I am! Have always loved babies but it's starting to become a real ache within me to have one. I'm happily married and we plan to have kids but my dh is of the opinion the time's not right, no rush etc. He's sort of right - I'm the main earner and my job is a contract that'll be up before I could take mat leave and I don't fancy having nothing to return to especially as I'm the main earner. Also we don't yet own out own home, we looked at buying but decided to hold off due to possibly wanting to job search nationwide.

I just feel this huge need within me to have a baby. I don't know if it's cos I've recently turned 30 & am feeling that biological clock ticking. Loads of my friends are pregnant / have babies but not that many of my dp's friends are in that position. Every time another pregnancy is announced I feel so excited but have a pang of jealousy. I think about it every day. If I try to talk to dp he just says it'll happen when the time is right. I feel like I'm getting obsessed! How can I get a grip? !!

It's hard when you're so fixated on one thing, even though you know it's not "the right time".

Would it help if you and your DP devised a list of all the things you both want to happen before you try for a baby? Having things down in black and white will make it easier to see where each other is coming from and give you both a chance to negotiate. It can also help you to agree when you can start trying for a baby.

It really is something u both need tp agree on. Just 30 is not too old yet! I wouldn't wait longer than 33-34 biologically, but 1-2 more years won't make any fifference.
Your turn will come!
I was 34 with my first. I had to wait over 1 year before ttc as dp had to complete a course of medical treatment and that year wait was agonising so u have my sympathies.

This was how it was with us too.

I was ready 3 years before my DH but I had to bear in mind that even if we had been financially prepared and all boxes ticked, that sti doesn't equate to being emotionally ready for a baby. I waited, it was tough but I had to respect my DH's wishes.

Thanks everyone, much appreciated. Had a good chat with DH and he too is very keen but we agreed to enjoy the things we can for now and wait until it's better timing.

I can only speak for myself i suppose but as a man i dont know if there is ever a right time, you can put up any list of things to put it off if you want, my job, savings, house, car, holiday anything really but one thing i do say to my friends (male) who are wavering is while there is not a right time there is a right person so if you are happy everything else you will make right once the baby comes you will sort out your job anyway, the house you make fit etc i dont think anyone ever has a true right time is what i'm saying, so if you want a baby talk to him and explain your feelings, i was quite satisfied with 2 babies but my wife really wanted no.3 and now we have him its right, i could have made excuse of new business, car seats, bedrooms in the house etc but we just made it work any you will too :)