When did you know you'd stay together?

[justjuanmorebeer]

I am in a wonderful relationship, things are great and that is what is freaking me out a bit. There are no issues. This is what it is meant to be like isn't it? My ex was a horrible man and failed relationships before that never worked out more than about 3 years.

My relationship is still new so we are in that honeymoon period (7 months) but I could honestly see this really working out.

We've both felt like this for some time. How long were you with your partner before you knew that you just worked together?

I knew as soon as I'd met my now DH that he'd be very important in my life. I'd made since odd choices to get where I was and when I met him it felt like a jigsaw slotting together of why I'd made some decisions. We didn't actually get together until the following July for various reasons but once we did, after independently chewing the ears off mutual friends about each other for months, within a few days we'd made long term commitments and we've now been together almost 7 years, married for 3 this year and have a baby. Over the years my feelings have evolved and deepened but I genuinely don't think I've waivered in my love for him since he walked in the door of the pub 7 years ago.

After I'd dumped him .

When I met DH, I was at uni and had left a serious relationship where the bloke had want to marry and stuff. So I had a year of just having fun - catching up on the fun I had missed out on as a teenager. So when I met DH I was very clear that I was not interested in anything serious, I was enjoying my time at uni and that was that... But then he got serious, so I dumped him (and other things that annoyed me like the way he clicked his toes, clicked his jaw when eating and other superficial stuff, although I'd dumped others for far less!)

We spent a few months apart, but I wasn't really interested in other guys, just didn't seem or feel right. And then out of the blue, Dh got back in touch. We met for a drink, and more or less said if we get back together this is it - serious this time (previously had a rule of never going back to exes) and so we did. Got back together in the Sept and by Christmas we knew we were going to be together and agreed to move in after uni. Started saving from the Jan and moved in together that summer.

Been together 18 years now and his clicky toes and jaw still bloody annoys me.

and his clicky toes

missing point of thread how do people click their toes???? What?

Mine had surgery just after our third date (about 10 days after meeting) and I desperately wanted to be there when he woke up. I knew then xx

I love this thread! About 6 weeks in for me. I met my DP when both him and I were in other relationships. Over the next 4 years I left my ex H, did 3 years of disastrous dating and consistently thought about him.

In the first 2 weeks of dating I thought "he's the one". After 6 weeks I met his family and knew we would be very long term when I met his parents. They were exactly the same as mine, house insanely similar, very similar character traits and personalities etc.

I remember returning from that weekend thinking I was falling in. Love, then the next weekend he said it first.

We're only 7 months in but I still feel the same. Everything. Just clicks so nicely and after a horrible marriage and a lot of work done on myself I know I want to marry him eventually. I never thought I'd ever say that.

Well we were friends for years, but once we got together I'd say about a week

We've been together 17 years now and our 5th baby is due next month. We've been through utter shit - losing our house after a failed business, but came out of it stronger than ever.

You don't know what life will throw at you, sometimes you have to just trust your instincts and take a chance. Good luck op.

We'd been friends for about a year without the thought crossing my mind. Then one day I realised I was in love with him. I got him drunk and told him (although just told him I liked him - didn't go hell for leather straight away) and he told me he felt the same way. I never really doubted from that point on that he was the one for me. It's different from every other relationship I've ever had (and we got together when I was 30, so I'd had a few) and seven years on is still just brilliant. I adore him.

OP - sounds like you've been lucky enough to meet a really special man.

OP here. I just popped back to say...we got married on Saturday and couldn't be happier.

These stories make me so jealous. I hope I find this :)

after about 2 weeks I remember saying to a friend one night, I'm going to marry him.....and I did, together 16 years now and never had a single doubt about him since we got together

Oh just realised this was an old thread, congrats OP

Congratulations and all the very best

@Leatherboundanddown

@cogito very wise words. When I met ex-DH at uni 20 years ago, I knew we’d be together. We were both loners in this world that for together. However, when we lost our first child, neither is us could cope with how I changed. I needing propping up for some time and he couldn’t give that to me and so, here I am, divorced and feeling better alone.

Oh just seen your update - that’s wonderful news!! Many congratulations. Wishing you a lifetime of happiness together.

When we arrived at the airport after a lovely mini break, and then remembered we'd left the passports in the hotel safe. We didn't have a screaming match about who's fault it was and just got on with the task of getting the passports. We just made our flight.

That's brilliant, OP. Congratulations!!!!!

Oh thank you!