does anyone feel that technology is ruining todays relationships?

[timelord1912]

my fiancée spends more time on her fablet than she does with me, and when we try and watch tv shes always on her fablet on either Facebook or other similar sites, anyone else find this annoying

Technology is an inanimate object (including fablets).

Have you spoken to your fiancée about this problem (in real life?). It's her behaviour not the technology, I think you'll find...Might be worth broaching the subject.

What is her response if you have?

Is that why you have joined MN?

Very annoying but technology is not to blame. You have a typical bloody selfish man, that's you're problem.

Research?

We are both on screens a lot.

But before these we'd have been sitting watching telly, before that listening to the radio, before that reading maybe.

Why don't you talk to her about it, see if she wants to do something about it? You could agree to have a certain night where you give it a miss, or go out for a walk and leave your devices behind. loads of things. No point complaining to us though talk to your girlfriend!

Yes.

wait till I message dh and ask him what he thinks (he's on the other couch playing his PS4!)

Yes this was a major issue with my relationship. He was always engrossed in tabletland even though we were supposed to be watching something together. A while film or programme would pass without him lifting his eyes from tablet, so no interaction or conversation about anything would take place. Talk to her about it before you get resentful.

And how do you guys know op is a man, before you call him a typical selfish one?

Yes. Totally. Suggest some sort of 'cut off time' or set tech break times to talk and share.

One tech free night a week?

Well, his fiancee has started a thread elsewhere and he's posted on it, so it does rather look that way, sadly!

I don't think she did call him a typically selfish man. I think she misread and assumed it was a woman posting about a man!

Just talk to her.

But is there really a difference between 2 people watching TV and 2 people watching different screens?

For me there would be as my boyfriend and I pause the TV constantly to talk about it, he records things that we'll both enjoy.

If you want relationship to last, put the bloody tablet/game consul/phoe/laptop down and talk to each other... A cautionary tale. My dsis was married to a lovely man until he got an Xbox. He went from playing on it for an hour a night to playing as soon as he got home until1/2 am. He kept being late for work and lost his job. He now had the opportunity to game all day. No hw, no cooking just gaming while she worked ft and cleaned the house. Two years down the line she had moved into spare room as Xbox kept her awake. 6 months later she left and divorced him. Citing obsession with technology as unreasonable behaviour as she honestly thinks he didn't speak to her at all in last 6 months except basic grunts...