Long term marriage broke up 5 years ago. Two years ago started online dating. Dated lovely guy for 9 months who I came to realise I didnt want to stay with long term. Then took a break. Then met another guy and started dating him. Lots in common and really got each other. Within 4 dates he knew more about me than a lot of long term friends. Unusually sweet, sensitive, sorted and entertaining.
Dated him for 2 months. Then a series of crises befell him. And he became more distant. Very upset about a number of these issues including work, his health, parents, close friend leaving country for good. Work especially awful and huge hours. Couldnt meet up recently due to demands of work. He used to love the job and now would love to get out but cant.
More and more distant. Stopped inititating contact but will always reply if I contact him.
And Im realistic. Ive done the me work in the past. I dont want to try to pull someone back into a relationship who doesnt want to be with me. So do I just move on now? But I know its likely hes doing nothing but work, not socialising and actually in a state. And the work pressure is seasonal and will stop end of February, beginning March and he should feel better.
I have dated a few men after marriage and feel hes special. So do I keep making the contact and be supportive. Or do I get out now? Hes not making any effort to see me or initiate contact. But he is likely working every night often some days too in tiring physical work.