Finding yourself after split

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Ok, so I'm now 7 weeks no contact. I have made a lot of progress but I'm sure there will be people out there who know how difficult it can be. I've made new friends and taken up new hobby but my confidence is wrecked. Sometimes I just want to hide! Guess I'm just looking for encouragement. The relationship became controlling and abusive. I'm trying to fight all of the negative things he said to me.. But. I got out and I felt utterly trapped, going backwards and forwards. Loved him but couldn't do it with him. I guess I'm out of that roller coaster just battle with my own. How do I get confidence and start to feel happier?

You can't rush this process. Any relationship ending is difficult. A relationship that has been controlling or abusive is extra difficult to leave behind because of the effect it has on confidence. When someone abusive has made themselves the centre of you world, that's a tough habit to break.

Time heals and you're doing the right things by staying busy, being sociable, trying new things etc. Some find the Freedom Programme helpful. Speaking personally, my way of coping was to throw myself into my work, volunteering for projects and international assignments. Still took two years.

Good luck