Time to ditch my antenatal group friends?

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Would love to have some opinions and a bit of perspective on this.
My NCT group of 4 other couples was very close when all the bubs arrived and were an amazing support through those crazy first months of sleep deprivation, colic and BF struggles. BBQs, pub lunches, play groups, even a holiday, we were always there for each other. I always felt me and DH were a little different to them because they are pretty wealthy, with high-paid jobs (careers, really) and posh houses whereas we're...well we're definitely not! But they are lovely people and I've tried to put that out of my mind. This continued until c.2 months ago when they all went back to work full time/4 days a week and I'm happily a SAHM and planning to stay that way.
Contact's inevitably dropped off but we've still met up occasionally. But recently I've gathered from emails that they are in touch with each other more than with me and my feelings were hurt to find out that two of them are going to a playgroup on their day off without asking me along. They're now asking if I want to meet up with them during half-term because there's no group that week - which strung a bit.
Always thought I'd be the career woman type but have been surprised to find that motherhood simply makes me happier. But we're getting poorer and they're getting richer and they have jobs and stuff to talk about whereas I'm happy with going to the swings and play groups!
Am I being too sensitive or should I just accept we're different and let the friendships go?

Sorry to be mercenary, but antenatal classes serve the purpose of putting you in touch with people in a similar situation so you have a support network when you first have a baby and don't know what the h*ll you're doing! They do not guarantee that they will be like-minded people nor that they will become good friends... BUT I'm sure that there are lots of other like-minded people out there and it's just a question of meeting them!!

I've been in exactly the same position (except that we were all sahms) and can only echo what others have said. During the early months you need that support from others with babies of the same age but once that stage has passed I slowly realised I had very little in common with these people and after discovering they'd been meeting up without bothering to tell me I gracefully accepted defeat and stopped going to meet ups.

It's just part of life, things change, people move on, if you've not got much in common there's no point in flogging a dead horse.

I think this sort of thing happens throughout life, as we all make different choices and take different paths. Each time your circumstances changed, I imagine you lost as well as gained friends. Forgive the following sweeping generalisations ... You're single, you tend to have more single friends; you're in a couple, more couple friends and not see so much of your single friends; you go to university or college, and make friends there; to work and find friends there as well, but now see less of your uni or school friends, and so on ... Often the things that create friendships are proximity and shared circumstance, and it can be a shock when a friendship perceived as being rock solid doesn't survive when these circumstances change.
What I'm trying to say in rather a long-winded way, is Don't feel bad - there will always be new friends around the corner.

I'm in the reverse situation sort of. I work F/T....others all SAHM's and they all meet during the week with the occasional evening meal out or Birthday Party. I've grown tired of the pitying looks I attract about the fact I work or the looks of contempt when I admit I like working. A couple of them have also confessed quietly to the fact that they feel that they have lost their identity by stopping work so it seems to bother them too.

Anyway, I've slowly concluded that unless you are great friends before your kids were born, it's very difficult for all parties when you're on different tracks.

Final nail in the coffin was when I realised I didn't want to take DS to their kids Birthday Parties because he didn't know any of their children and would rather be at home. I also now feel I have to invite all of them to DS's party when he doesn't know them from Adam either.

All daft IMO...better to accept defeat and move on.

Just wanted to say on a positive note that the people I know from antenatal classes work a mixture of P/T, full-time and full time child care, and we just accept that we made choices based on our different circumstances and there isn't this working/non-working divide.

Anyway I agree with Kiwikat's post.