I'm not sure what to do anymore

[TnBiscuits]

This is probably trivial in the grand scheme of things but it's really peeved me off.

Was meeting DP to go food shopping tonight after work. I arrived at morrisons and parked the car, he kept telling me to pull further back into the space, it was fine I used my mirrors and was happy with my parking.

DP then demanded I moved the car back.. I told him no it's fine lets go shopping, he then got a bit huffy jumped in my car and moved it back by letting handbrake off I had the key. It rolled back about 1cm (car park is on the flat) at this point I realised he was on a shit mood and I didn't want to shop with him. I told him this and left.

Back story.

He's been away overnight with work, I'd been told earlier horse ad minor colic but was ok.. Anyway my mood maybe not at its best

So I went to horse then came home.
He's come home with weekly shop for himself and nothing for me. Ie no lunch foods NOTHING. I've aske him for money so I can buy food he said no.. Be no cash for food, I pay household bills less food everymonth so I've no cash.

I've told him I'm done with his childish attitude and given him my engagement ring back.. Stupid I know.. Told him to sleep in spare room as I've had enough of him.

He's the silent type in an argument infact he just ignores me which makes me mad.

Been together 5yrs in the last 18mnths we've had sex twice (if you can call it that, very quick little foreplay (not for want of trying) and soon as the deed is done he's on the shower dressed and downstairs.

So lovely people...
Am I over reacting... In the big picture to other looking in we get on great, I normally want for nothing (alert from sex) and he puts me first.

Can I have a hug.. No one to talk to and it's all messed up.

Sorry for typos and lack of grammar I'm on my mobile

Leaving else you've said aside, I have one thing to say to you and I think it's really important.

DON'T marry someone you can't have a personal conversation with!!!

It's the very definition of marriage to me - someone you can say anything to.

What Cabrinha said.

A relation like you describe would be a long slow death. Please don't do it. And although I'm not saying that sex is everything by any means, there is no way that I would marry someone that didn't want sex with me unless they were in their 70's.

he didn't go in the spare room because if somebody is going to dictate, it's going to be him

That's it in a nutshell.

I'm sorry but I'd not settle for the relationship you're in.

You can't even have a conversation about your sex life!

Hope your horse is ok. Nasty thing colic.

Hope your gee gee is okay OP, I know whenever mine is/has been ill it makes me more emotional/ snappy etc than usual.

I think perhaps you could save this relationship if you can sort the sex life out. Does he have a sex drive at all?! Does he watch porn etc do you know? May sound a bit odd I know but if he genuinely doesn't have a sex drive, perhaps he needs to see his GP, maybe get bloods checked, or failing that, Viagra

Apart from today (where he's acted like a bit of a dick) he sounds nice enough and you obviously love him. If he refuses to sort out the sex life then you'll have to leave him, even if it's just to try and make him wake up and sort it out!!

So... Do I go to the spare room? I'm not good at this mind game malarky

Oh Helllll No!!!!

Stand your ground go to your bed and that's that!

Ok.. He'll probably be sleeping anyway..

But if your life is like this now after only five years - no sex, you can't talk to him - it won't get better from here! Really, it won't. You don't have dc together. What's keeping you together?

Sounds like he wants everything on his terms and isn't so bothered about you...

he behaved like a twat but i do think you have escalated things a bit. how is your horse? do you think the row upset you more because you were worried for your horse?

is he likely to be sulking if you go in with a cup of tea and say ahh lets stop being a pair of dicks shall we? if so then leave him to it. if not might be worth clearing the air.

the sex thing however is a huge problem. sex is a massive part of my relationship with dp. i find we snipe at each other more if we don't have sex for say over a week . been together 22 years. i couldn't stay in a non sexual relationship.

do you think there is a medical reason for it? how was your sex life before? why does he need to shower afterwards? i would be very reluctant to marry him if he is unwilling to tackle this issue.

Horse has perked up a bit so that's good. He's pooped so a good sign Thanks for asking about him

I think he's sleeping. I'm out first thing so won't see him till later in the day.. Will try to talk to him then. Being upset with him is such hard work..

then don't be ...What's the point? hopefully this will blow over because you need to tackle the bigger issue and you can't do that while the pair of you are brooding over an argument.

is it just the sex he wont talk about?

Morning hun (and everybody)!
How are you and how did it go during the night? x