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DP has been searching for his ex on Facebook

17 replies

LottieL · 30/01/2015 10:31

After his divorce DP had a short relationship with a woman - nothing serious, it basically consisted of meeting up a few times and sex. She wanted to take it further and he put a stop to it as he wasn't over his ex wife and wasn't really into this new fling as much as she was.

Anyway I've just seen that he's been searching for this woman on facebook. Their fling was about 3 years ago (just before he met me).

Would this bother you or would you just put it down to human nosyness?

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Justwheesht · 30/01/2015 10:32

Wouldn't bother me.

People are nosey.

GraysAnalogy · 30/01/2015 10:33

It would bother me, but I'd be a massive hypocrite because Ive done it myself - and I have absolutely no interest in my ex in a relationship sort of way im just genuinely curious.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 30/01/2015 10:34

How do you know he's been searching? Does 'human noseyness' apply to you?

plantsitter · 30/01/2015 10:35

I have searched Facebook for all my exes even one night stands if I can remember their name. I'm just nosey.

DeanKoontz · 30/01/2015 10:35

human nosiness. Though I would probably ask him what he found out because I am nosy too Grin

lemisscared · 30/01/2015 10:36

Unless you have other reasons to doubt him (maybe you do as you have been checking his facebook activity) then i wouldn't be bothered, ive checked up my exes on facebook for no reason other than curiosity and that smug feeling of "phew, lucky escape"

Idontseeanysontarans · 30/01/2015 10:36

It wouldn't bother me at all - I'm FB friends with 2 ex's of mine and he's friends with one of his. Smile
Probably just nosiness and wondering what she's up to these days.

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 30/01/2015 10:38

Oh dear I am always looking up ex bf's out of nosiness! Give him the benefit of the doubt.

sanquhar · 30/01/2015 10:39

I've done it loads of times. It's sheer nosyness. I'm not the slightest bit interested in contacting them or trying to to rekindle anything. I just want to see what they look like now, are they hugely overweight, are they successfull or failures, do they have wives and kids etc etc etc...

mumofthemonsters808 · 30/01/2015 10:41

I do this and it means nothing, sometimes I just feel like being nosy.

MrsBungle · 30/01/2015 10:41

Ach I have looked up my exes on fb - pure nosiness!

tumbletumble · 30/01/2015 10:43

I've done this too with my exes. However I must admit I'd be a bit gutted if I saw that DH had been doing it!

Original poster
LottieL · 30/01/2015 10:46

Well he has a history of inappropriate internet usage, let's just say that.

hook up sites

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 30/01/2015 10:48

If you don't trust the guy because he has history, ditch him and move onto the next one. Don't turn into a snoop and go torturing yourself. No brainer....

LadyBlaBlah · 30/01/2015 10:48

So why are you with him if he goes on hook up sites?
A browse at an ex on fb is the least of your concerns

Joysmum · 30/01/2015 11:09

I looked for my exes after life started to go really well for me. I wanted to see if it had for them and hoped one was suffering

Mind you, I'm devoted to my DH and don't visit hook up sites. We'd end if either of us did.

Redglitter · 30/01/2015 11:19

Him looking up an ex wouldn't bother me in the slightest but being on hook up sites most certainly would

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