Can he change or are we delusional?

[allmixedup79]

Ok H should have a p/t job within the next month, but I cant see why he cant get a f/t job that is reliable?

I have worked and supported us in every financial aspects our whole relationship, which is in the teens of years. He did have jobs but never sticks to it longer that a month, I think mainly dues to the daily use of weed, which when he doesn't have it makes him agitated and moody.

But something in me has shifted, I just can not be bothered anymore, am I being a picky cow? His job will be something he enjoys as it is also a hobby of his but I feel he needs to get real and get something f/t??

I was married to someone like that for years (without the weed but add gambling and drinking !) in the end it just killed any respect that I had for him and that was the end.
I am much happier, have the money to do what I want and savings in the bank - will never ever go back to someone like that.

Oh dear, OP.

I think he can change (I think anyone can), but it doesn't sound like he's willing to, to be honest. He has a p/t job doing something he likes - it sounds like this is the way he wants to live and that you're trying to 'change him' because it's not your ideal too.

The fact that you just can't be bothered with him sounds like you're reaching the end of your tether (I would be too). Perhaps if you walk away, you'll feel better and have more energy for the things that matter to you, and be able to meet someone who is more aligned with your needs.

Can he change? Yes, of course he can.
Will he change? Hell no he won't change!

another lazy weed head?

Didn't you post before about him, honesty love, you are not a cow, he's a freeloader who is using you and has been for years, how can you have respect for anyone who treats you this badly, then again, if you are allowing it....

His longest job has been a month and he smokes weed - as long as you keep supporting him he won't ever change.

I don't believe for a second that this man will keep the new job long term.

I have posted before, sometimes I feel guilty and im not sure why as im doing nothing wrong.

I cant explain the change but something has gone and im really trying but cant help that things are the way they forever unless I actually get the courage to change this situation.