Feeling broke

[Retromama008]

My lo is 3months old, had a normal birth and a few stitches... Everything went well down below. Me and my partner have has sex numerous times since the birth and each time except once it has hurt. Tonight he was out at a party came home and we done the deed, I asked him to stop a ton of times but alcohol fuelled he didn't listen so I just got off and turned and said I didn't want to do anymore he just turned over in bed without saying anything. So now am sitting in tears feeling used and useless! I have been to the doctor and had everything checked they said it all seems normal and just part of healing the site area is where a stitch was so they said it's got a slight graze which will heal in time. I just feel disgusted at. OH for being a prick and at myself for being shit in bed

I asked him to stop a ton of times but alcohol fuelled he didn't listen

My love, this could amount to a serious sexual assault. (I say could, because the next thing you say makes it sound as though you may have willingly continued with sex - it's not clear to me.) It is not alright for your partner to ignore you when you ask to stop, drunk or not. How is your relationship otherwise?

As for the pain. I had a 2nd degree perineal tear that was painful for 6 months. Is ok now. It is really difficult not to be able to resume the sex life you want after giving birth, I think it can really affect your relationship and the way you see yourself. Please don't feel disgusted with yourself

Did you go to the doctor recently? do return if it's been a month and things haven't improved.

Thanks... It wasn't an assault of any kind I know I asked him to stop and he didn't but he was just in the zone lol if I have of been forceful or louder when telling him I know he would stop I am just annoyed that he didn't realise why I said it. He knows about the pain but he acted as if I just snatched his favourite toy from him purposely and then ignored me.

Iwas last at the doctors yesterday and all blood tests/swabs that they done shut incase were fine. She just said area was a little red and nothing they could really do to come back in a few weeks to have it checked or sooner if pain gets worse

If you're sure....

Yes, he's an arse not to care that you're in pain. Arse squared since you got your injuries delivering his child.

Are you initiating sex, is he? what would be better for you?

Poor you OP, he should have stopped the second you said no. Assault doesn't just happen by strangers and him having sex with you without your consent is assault. Don't let him do that to you again. Tell him you felt violated and that it was wrong.