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Mum might have cancer, no support from dp (again)

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LottieL · 28/01/2015 22:32

Today I found out that my mum probably has skin cancer and is having an operation to remove a tumour. I'm understandably upset, worried, concerned and anxious. She's my only surviving parent. On top of this I've had the week from hell regarding work and my son's behaviour is spiralling out of control, he's stealing money at home and I'm getting constant phone calls from school about his behaviour there. Now, normally dp and I have a cuddle on the sofa on an evening. Past two nights he's sat at the opposite end and refused to hug me saying he wants to "stretch out". Tonight I said I could really do with a hug and he snapped "come to me then". He's sat in an awkward position on a corner sofa, would be a million times easier for him to come and hug me but no, he wants to make a point for some reason and is insisting I either go to him for a hug or I go without. He acted the same when my grandad died.

I've stayed where I am. He ended up saying "you can't be that bothered, you've not come to me gave you!" Etc. ffs of all times to play power games :-(

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Star8369 · 28/01/2015 22:43

I understand exactly what you are going through as my mum is getting her tests results tomorrow on a biopsy they did on her cervix last week Sad

3littlefrogs · 28/01/2015 22:50

He sounds awful.
Do you really want/need him in your life?
Is he your son's father/
Is he a good father and role model?

These are very important questions. You have enough to cope with without him making everything worse.

Does he always want all the attention for himself?

Joysmum · 28/01/2015 23:56

I don't know your history but I take it you were expecting this?

getthefeckouttahere · 29/01/2015 00:09

Its because he's a big fucking kid who is worried that more attention for your mum equals less attention for him.

Fuck that.

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