Finding out a cheat? porn, dating sites etc.....

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Hi everyone.

So going off my previous thread, i thought i may start another one.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2291901-pregnant-lonely-and-a-not-very-nice-partner

So things have been quite since sunday, he has been sleeping on the sofa.
No apologies or no saying he was out of order etc....

Just went to login to my emails and his was already up so i thought i would have a sneak. Looked in the junk folder and found he has signed up to a porn type/dating site?
Its called snapsext and basically full of women with their bits out etc....he has created a profile but looks like he stopped as its one of those ones where you have to pay to read msgs etc.....he has however filled in what he is looking for , there are no pics of himself and as far as am aware you have to sign up and pay to send messages, he has ticked boxes to meet ups and threesomes etc in our area.
He only joined on the 15 jan too.

I am without a doubt sure that he has loads more to hide on his personal FB and on his phone. He is very secretive with it.
Porn does not bother me, however dating sites and seemingly actively looking in the area bothers me as would messaging other women on FB.

I did find out he had signed up to some porn sites a year or so again but the dick had used my card and never realized they took money and i called my bank who told me it was an adult entertainment site, he had no choice but to own up that time. I wasnt mad, as i said its the dating sites and actively seeking to meet up that would bother me - thats when the line has been crossed IMHO

Whats the best way to handle this? i dont know his passwords for FB or his FB email account.

He will just deny deny deny though, i have taken a pic on my phone of the laptop of his profile.
Its horrible snooping, the whole time my heart felt as though it would beat out of my chest and my hands where shaking, scared of what else was on that site (what he had messaged) but there where none on there.

Ideas please? WWYD?
I need to know what he is up too.

Oh he won't leave tomorrow he wants you to beg him to stay.

Once you do that he will know he can do whatever he wants and you will still take him back - cheating, threesomes, any old shite.

You should have insisted he go. Your son will be fine if you maintain some normality. Listen to what he said about not wanting other women he supposedly loves to be treated the way he had treated you. Sounds like he had been cheating for years to me.
He is a dick a vile dick.

I feel the situation is 100 x worse with being pregnant. Am scared I suffered PND in my 2nd pregnancy and took me a long time to stop feeling very sad after my 3rd. Worried how I will cope with a new born and a toddler and my other 2 children if I suffer PND again

Sweetheart, I had horrendous PND. It was bad the first time but horrendous with the second and to honest, I wasn't far off being sectioned. Really really awful horrible time and I was very ill, which worried my mum greatly.

I remember at the time her saying to me (I think this has a lot more to do with Mr Fontella than you realise) she was a very insightful woman my mum, a senior nurse as well.

I, of course wouldn't have it, he had me so well conditioned - 'no mum, it's me, I'm the weak one, it's not his fault etc. etc'.

I look back now I can see she was 100% right.

Being with this dickhead must be a huge stress and strain on you, he doesn't support you, you can't trust him and you have to deal with that on top of being a mum.

You may well find that away from him you are far better able to cope and your PND is less severe.