We have been nc with in laws since October. There were many things going on. They are manipulative and controlling. Dh is terrified of confrontation with them and will let them stress him to the point where he loses it at home, short tempered, angry etc but will never get angry and tell them how he feels.
In October after a few horrible text messages and a cheeky letter from mil dh and i decided I would have a long chat with mil. It went terribly. She made it personal and said some really hurtful things.
We have since ceased all communication with them. Dh wouldn't answer the phone because he was worried it'd be his mum. He bought a phone to block her number but she still seems to manage to get through occasionally and leave messages. Dh will now shout at the dc 'dont answer it' if the phone rings and tbh Im getting fed up with all the stress. I hate confrontation. Having the long chat with mil wasnt an easy thing to do but i had to just put myself out there, asking myself 'what am i afraid of, how much worse can the situation be'.
So now i am feeling more and more pissed of at dh. Why can't he stand up to them.
Am i wrong to expect him to take action? Making the kids nervous of answering the phone is just not on.