Is this weird???

[Fearless91]

I had a strange feeling about my boyfriend and his phone last week so unfortunately I snooped. I didn't find anything 'bad' but I did come across something that doesn't sit right.

Basically, he's been talking to his best mates ex and asking to go visit her.

Those two have been split up for about 3 years and she now lives in london with a new guy and seems very happy. My boyfriend was never close friends with her however they've known each other for 10 years but only saw each other when they were all together with my boyfriends mate.

The texts started with my boyfriend saying he was in london which reminded him of her. They got chatting innocently and he started suggesting they meet up for a catch up. From the texts I could tell she isn't interested and was avoiding giving an answer. Three days later he text her happy birthday. She replied to which he then asked when he could go see her. Once again she ignored it and hasn't sent anything back.

Not only that, but I noticed on his facebook he's searched her and looked at her profile a few times.

Now our relationship is very happy, he treats me well and makes me feel loved and cared for etc. We've spoken about the future and he's very much just as involved as I am. I honestly do not believe he would cheat on me..

So why this?!
They we're never close friends, they haven't kept in touch for 3 years.

Is it normal to suddenly start texting your best friends ex after 3 years asking for a catch up and wanting to go visit her and regularly checking her facebook? And also not mentioning anything to your girlfriend...?

We were together when I was 18, but we were too young and broke up, I was heartbroken.

The reason why he persisted for so long was because I was too scared the same thing would happen. And he wanted to prove he/things had changed.

I didn't post here to see if he was cheating, only he knows that, I was posting here to see if I was being irrational and unfair. I'm greatful for the replies and opinions though.

Maybe he would do something with her if she gave him the chance, I'm sure he finds her attractive. But if he was going to cheat wouldn't he just go out with his friends and sleep with someone? Instead of travelling 2 hours and sleeping with his best mates ex.

Like I said I might be wrong and he might've slept with her given half a chance. But him simply arranging to meet her is wrong in my opinion, whether he was after her in that way or not.

I don't know what to do.

I was responding to your comment that you were 99% sure he wouldn't cheat. He may not have been thinking of cheating, he may just have itchy feet.

I would keep an eye on him and bear in mind you're very young and he may want to sow more wild oats.

You need to talk to him about it at some point, or you will never be able to trust him. Even if it's all innocent, he needs to know that you are not happy about it and be willing to change, otherwise this relationship is doomed. Sorry.

I totally agree with axolotl209: "I think, without knowing any of the rest of this story, there is nothing here that would make me suspicious, and it sounds like you at least don't feel totally certain that this is suspicious. He's told her he's with you - what makes it anything more than him just catching up with someone from his past? "