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NCbutIstillmightbeouted · 26/01/2015 03:52

I have been with OH for five years, we have one son together he has another son.

Recently I have been finding myself yelling at my OH for the treatment of DS and because I am doing that I am thinking that maybe OH EX left him rather than the other way round.

He is an Enambaler (SP)

He is has just been suspended, this is the the third time since I have known him. I think I have hit my limit, would it be wrong to ask him to leave till his job is sorted?

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Topseyt · 26/01/2015 04:03

Embalmer??

Topseyt · 26/01/2015 04:10

Sorry, hit send a bit soon.

He does sound very volatile. How does he treat your son? Hits him? Volcanic temper?

Being suspended from his job three times in five years is a bit of a warning signal l should think.

LikeABadSethRogenMovie · 26/01/2015 04:12

An enambaler? An enabler? An embalmer?!

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NCbutIstillmightbeouted · 26/01/2015 04:30

An enabler is the word I am looking for

Nop he has always been good, but recently he is starting to get angry. For example he got up at 8am and got off his computer about 2am. Due to insomnia I fell asleep at 10am and got up at 12am. My partner hadn't moved. He ignores him, which in my eyes makes it worse

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Thumbwitch · 26/01/2015 05:02

He's been suspended from work for the third time? What the hell for?! And does he actually still have a job to go back to? (I wouldn't have thought so, tbh - surely after the 2nd suspension they'd not be too keen to keep him!)

I suspect the behaviour with your DS is linked to his feelings about being suspended, and possibly the cause, depending on what it is. How old is your DS? is your DH being really abusive to him? If he's damaging your DS in any way, then yes, ask him to leave until he gets his job (and his head!) straight.

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