Can a couple with children maintain their marriage if living in different countries?

[Fiona2011231]

Could you pls advise?

Can a couple with children maintain their marriage if living in different countries?

Here is the situation: The husband is forced to find a new job, and he found one in another country in Asia. In their plan, the wife will stay in England to work and to take care of the children. Whenever they have time and opportunities, they will fly back and forth to see each other.

What kind of chance would you give in this situation? Can it work out, not only for the couple but for the children as well, in long-term?

Thank you,

My parents did this and managed to make it work for nearly 15years.

This was pre email/Skype days so i didn't have much contact with my dad on a day to day basis. There were weekly phone calls and twice yearly visits home. As such i don't think i have much of a relationship with my dad and my mum was resentful of all the parents she had to do alone.

It did get them out of debt, set them up for an early retirement and ultimately gave them a better life. Their marriage survived where others failed but i wouldn't want that lifestle for my own kids.

In some companies/industries it's a given, such as engineering/construction of rather large industrial complexes.

My DH has decided to stay with his current company until retirement, and that involves moving/relocation. I'm a bit sick of it now, I've been moving about for 20yrs, he has been for 8 total, and can see particularly as the DC get older, I'll be settled somewhere with them for a couple of years. It's not so bad, as generally the rotation for home leave is either 2 weeks home after 8 or 12 weeks on. Adding to the complexity, I'm from a different country to DH, and we have no idea where we would want to live long term.

The only option for us in the UK is London with the same company. However, they'd still expect us to go where the work is eventually.

I know the DC will be affected by it. DH has just gone on business for 2 weeks and today DS1 was telling his HT that his dad lives in x country, when asked if he lived with mum or dad. I had to say, actually he just went yesterday and is only gone for 2 weeks. DS2 said yesterday after waving him off, DF is perfect, we buy him.......