pregnant, lonely and a not very nice partner :(

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Am 22 and a bit weeks pregnant and having a bit of a rough time of it at present.I have a first class Arsehole as a partner who prefers getting pissed with his mates down the pub than thinking about helping me out.Meant to be moving house in a week or so and theres me shunting furniture around and cleaning under things, packing stuff away, lifting boxes etc whilst he says hes in work then i find him in the pub.will be back in 10 minsis texted to me every half hour. Well i lost it. After 3 hours of waiting for help i stormed down the pub, which is very small and very local and it was quite busy, no music just people chatting and drinking - to march over to the dick and tell himGet his arse home now and look after his kids as am off to my mums as had enough!!the pub went silent, everyone looked.sure enough within 5 mins he came storming home, only to tell me i made a Ct of myself and everyone thinks i am a dick and how i willlose outand how i havehad my chancehaha hahaWhat a dick.Why would any decent man treat his pregnant GF and the mother of his children like this?!! (see previous thread on his antics)Anyway all this stress and lifting, (please see previous posts of his antics) has been causing me a hell of a lot of stress. I keep getting hundreds of braxton hicks when i get stressed/angryi cant help it though. I feel like kicking him in the face. alot.I have wayy to much work at home to go up to my mums for a little while plus 3 other children. The 10 and 11 yr old would be fine with their dad but i would have to take the 2 yr old with me (normally goes to childcare 3 x per week) which means i cannot do or take any work with meRAHHHH i just want to scream and shout and cry and laugh all at the same time.MASSIVE SIGH*Is anyone else having a shit time?
sorry to moan guys. I just need to let of steam. I don't have many friends here where we live, its crap and boring in the countryside. Its overrated!!My house looks like WW3 has hit it, everything is everywhere due to the move. I used to be so house proudI just feel like there is no point in putting on make-up or doing my hair or dressing nice. Whats the point?? whos going to see me??Am sad, hormonal, paranoid, fed up and lonely.And yes i am feeling very sorry for myselfMy moods are up and down like a yoyo. I know its the hormones. How can i control them?

What's the point of this man?

I assume the 10 & 11 year old are his.

Why not cut your losses and set up life with your 2 year old and new baby? It would be a lot better than this.

All 3 and the one to be are both ours.
I know I know I need to get out asap.
Just soooo tired and stressed.
Everything will be okay for a week or so or sometimes even a month then je will pull a stunt like this again.
I feel weak not strong enough to cope on my own :( :(
I am sick of feeling sad and crying :(

Oh, I read your OP as you were 22 (years old) and x weeks pregnant.

Let's start again: this man is a waste of space.

I'm sure you'd find it easier to cope with children without him, he's your fifth child.

Cannot believe some twats behave like this, selfish attitude which rarely changes. You will cope alone, it is proven by many, and gives you self respect.

Thanks guys.

Have woken up feeling quite positive about moving out and starting afresh up north. I know one thing i would rather be around friends and family than stuck down here lonely and bored.

There are a few issues.
Issue 1 - My 11 yr old son has dyspraxia and ADHD and basically finds change extremely difficult. He has been statemented at school and gets extra help and is coping well at the moment and is settled in his year 6. He is due to move to 2ndry school this year and i have a meeting with his new senco on wednesday. I feel bad about moving him out :(
So the plan was too move out as planned asap taking the 2 year old with me and then when the older 2 finish (daughter will be going onto year 6) their school year in July they can come and live with me up north. This will give me a good 6 months to find some decent schools in the area etc...
I am self employed and very lucky that i can work from anywhere as its internet based.
I already have £700 which i can put toward a renting deposit (meant to be my half for this new house we are renting next week) - would have to stay at my mums for a further few weeks in order to save for the rest but its do-able. There is plenty of room there - 5 bed home with just mum, dad and bro living there at the moment.
I suppose its very do-able. I just need to stay strong and go ahead with it all, that will be the difficulty.
Either way everything is packed up, ready to go. We need to be gone out this house by 5th feb as thats when the notice is up.
Everytime i think about getting scared about going i will just remind myself of his behaviour, and all those nights i have cried myself to sleep or lay in bed unable to sleep till 5am worrying where and who he is with or if he has had an accident or worse still drink driving.
I know its going to be incredibly hard.

Don't leave your older children there. Do you think he won't go out drinking leaving them on their own?

You will never have a better chance of a good time to move as regards your eldest child.

Jsotherhalf - i don't think he would do that. It may wake him up and give him a shock if i go. He is a good dad to them. Just not a good partner to me.

They would still be with me every weekend.

I don't think i can move them out of the area where the older two are at the moment (school wise) then it would mean me having to stay around here for another 6 months until they finish school.
I don't have any support here or family. I don't fancy having the baby here alone with no help either.
Baby is due end of may.

I agree - you mustn't leave children with him. You all leave him together.