Long story short. DS is 7 mths now and our sex life has gone from nearly everyday during pregnancy, twice a week when breastfeeding to once a month now. My libido grew sky high (I know a bit odd) but hubby lost his interest. We tried to work together with the problem, he went to doctors as he said he feels tired and generaly not himself. Everything was perfect including thyroid and testosteron. He says long hours at work are killing him. Well, he is not working since yesterday and it was ok so far...
He asked me to maybe initiate sex more often which I did trying to be as understanding and supportive as possible. I was trying to be more flirty before kids going to bed so he could still feel I want him etc. After a few weeks he started giving me odd looks lasting for a second "WTF u doing, are u mental" then quickly changing face into "Haha it is so funny". I have to say after 3rd time I gave up. We had a bit of an argument over something stupid and not talked for 2 weeks. Big thing for us as it never happened in 13 years. Yesterday I tried to have a chat about our problem but with those levels of frustration it escaleted into massive drama. Basicly a lot of honest opinions were expressed whih is good but some of them were so shocking Im crying every time I think about it eg im obsessed with weight lose and healthy eating, he told me having second child is going to be struggle as we have no support but i wanted it and now shouldn't complain, that i demand sex constantly and my drive is not normal, that im being tired and grumpy, that i demand him to exercise. He admited to watching porn though which i don't mind I do as well
Sort of true, I am on diet but not obsessed, i want sex but not 24/7, yes I wanted 2nd child but he contributed to it and so on.
Later on he cuddled me, said he loves me and I am stil atractive to him and even wanted some sex but I just can't stand him anymore. Every time he touches me I cry as i I lost my best friend and somebody I can trust because during an argument there was so much hate I have never seen him like that before