Advice please in a mess

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Hi all
Things are not going smoothe with my hubby and me .We let down each other and shout out things a lot . I have been suffering from low self esteem and insecurity due to lack of work. Anger is so much on my head that I broke glass yEsterday and today my hubby called me housemaid I just pinched him badly .to be honest he also hits below the belt many times .the sad part was that he told my father in my country and he being a old man got worried . I never wanted this to happen .i want to go back and start work or a new life altogether .my hubby and my father say no to all this .my hubby says it's better for his career to stay here .he says if kid stays away from him there is broken marriage which will effect the kid . I have seen a case of one broken marriage and I know how kids are effected we both love our son .
My father also says the same .what should I do .

You are an adult. A human being with your own needs. You do not need anyone's permission to work.
While losing your temper and reacting by pinching him is not good, it sounds as if both your father and husband do not see you as someone who should be valued and listened to.

Where are you from originally? Are you in the UK now? I ask because it sounds like you are dealing with cultural issues which can make a difference to how it may be best to deal with this.

You have seen one case of a broken marriage, gg, but there are lots of ways of messing up a child's life within a marriage and lots of children from "broken marriages", myself included, turn out really well.

It must be very upsetting for your son to hear so much shouting and fighting and to have such an unhappy mother. Talking about broken marriages, my sister is ten years older than me and my mother didn't work while she was married because my father wouldn't let her. My sister's childhood was very unpleasant and her memories of our mother was of a severely depressed person. By the time I was four my father left and a couple of years later my mother went out to work. I had a happy childhood and have much fonder memories of my dear mother.