Asked my 16 YO daughters to dial 999 on my behalf

[mylifeisapileofshite]

Been with husband (and father to the 2 DC) for 18 years. I have been terrorised and beaten up throughout. I am a shit mother. I wish I had never met him. My daughters love me and would love to be elsewhere (just us three , they are now 16)

Problem is I have no savings. I have no job. I have been a SAHM since 2006. I have no family to lean on nor friends . ? /

Any ideas where I go from here? He is currently down in the basement on the playstation. When he comes back upstairs it probably will be the case of totally ignoring me or giving me a pasting. I have already got my pillow and and blanket in readiness for sleeping on the couch. My darling twins have said they will not come through to the kitchen again tonight (have to come through lounge to access kitchen)

Every time I hear him make a noise - like a cough = I feel scared.

It's not normal.

But I have no-one nor no-where to go.

It doesn't matter if your FIL was chief constable that's, now thankfully, completely irrelevant. It will have no bearing on things now

He has never physically gone for either girl but he has been verbally abusive to the daughter that resembles me - the one that resembles him he abuses by with-holding Birthday/Christmas money because he knows that she won't make a fuss (laid back)

Daughter that resembles me is highly strung and argumentative apparently

You know what? Sooner or later he will go for one of them. His sort usually do, they don't pick on big blokes like me because they are cowards. One day though, when one of them says what he perceives in his fucked up head as backchat, or challenges him, then he might well go for them. Doing nothing isn't really an option, is it?
Sorry you've had bad experiences with WA and the police, but as I linked to that other thread, they do treat this sort of thing very seriously now. His dad could be king of the frigging world, but it won't matter any more. The Police isn't like that any more.

Please phone this police and get out, this beating might be the last, I know it's scary but you've got to protect your self and the kids, they've grown up seeing this they don't need to see anymore. If you can phone the police now please phone woman's aid tomorrow and phone the police.

What's stopping you trying the national dv line for a refuge place?

I think you need support to help leave safely.

Thank You RandomNPC you have just put into words what I fear the most = he will lash out at my DD2 ( younger than DD1 by 6 minutes ) she is scarily like me and I fear for her. Hence going back to the start of my thread. Where to go now. I am almost 49 - my DTwins are almost 17 = they are now deemed adults in the eyes of the law but very much my children, my responsibility and I've let them down by not being able to stand up to the Husband and PIL

No you haven't let them down. Your husband has.
You all have a future without him. Wishing you strength.

The past is past, you can't change it and you shouldn't beat yourself up about it. The only thing you can change is your present and future. This man is an arsehole, you have no future with him. What matters now is getting you and your twins to safety. There are people who can help you, but you need to put your trust in them. You need to take that next step for you and your kids' sakes.

Will the authorities take me seriously - taking into account the length of time I have been in this situation and the age of our girls? I can't help thinking that they would just give me an then move on to some-one more deserving of their time ( ie someone with young children and the balls I wish I had back then)

Yes they will, you're so at risk and so are the kids! They won't judge you: it's hard to leave abusers for lots of reasons, they know that. The police and women's aid can be invaluable in getting all three of you out of this awful, dangerous situation.

I think they will. This is serious. Nobody should have to go through what you are going through, I think age is irrelevant. Stop blaming yourself, it makes you weaker. This is not your doing. It doesn't matter how long it takes to feel you have had enough, mac is right, the future is yours and your daughters, not his.

Yes they will take you seriously, you are strong enough to do this. He is an animal who needs to be locked up. How dare he lay a finger on you?

You have already taken the first step by talking about it here - that's very brave of you. Keep talking and work out what the next step is or you - tolerating any more of his violence is not an option, you need to get away from this man.

Not mac, NPC.

Also sorry if I sounded abrupt about blaming yourself, I have only recently realised at the age of 47, how damaging it can be, so I am projecting. Sorry. But know that it is absolutely not you with the problem here.

No your dd's are not deemed as adults, they are under 18.

Of course they will.
Your children are not adults, social services would most likely have them on child protection plans if they knew.
Women without children go to refuges, age of children is irrelevant.
You need to go. Your children deserve more, as do you.

Please please get out of there if I knew where you lived I'd get come and get you. This man is not your keeper get out please someone will be there to help and think of the life you can have thinking of you xxxd

I've sent you a pm. Hope you're ok?